The Link Between Low Self-esteem And Poor Problem Solving Skills In Children
As parents we all want what's best for our kids
. No loving, well-meaning parent would want their children to experience hardship as much as possible. We even get afraid of thinking what their future might be like once they finish schooling. It's normal. This natural yearning to care is our driving force in providing the best for our young ones. In fact, we want what's best for them so much that we fail to identify where the lines are drawn between being parents and being mere spoon-feeders.Let's not forget that as parents our measurable yardstick for success depends on what our kids have learned from life's lessons. So if you're a parent who identifies your kid to be having difficulty in solving problems in life or taking responsibility in facing situations, there's going to be a problem.
Children who fail at developing their problem solving skills make up for it by showing bad, obnoxious, or abusive behavior because they shun the feelings of inadequacy or fear. These behavioral problems lead them to developing low self-esteem which makes them more fearful of trying to solve more problems or face new challenging situations. Low self-esteem isn't the cause but rather the effect of poor problem solving skills. You could only imagine the number of detrimental effects low self-esteem could bring to your child's life when he/she grows up.
It doesn't end there because if normal kids are in trouble, how much more are the ones with challenges or handicaps will be. They aren't exempted from this. Which is why special children or impaired children shouldn't be treated differently but instead they should be treated fairly like everybody else. They deserve that right of equality, not pity or worry or even false hopes. If you think about it the only free ride they'll be getting is when they're kids. But once they grow up, get a job and eventually have to live for themselves there isn't going to be anyone to help them anymore.
Children with challenges or handicaps will still need to follow rules, regulations, laws, and work and social ethics which they should have learned earlier on if their parents didn't treat them differently. They won't be able to get away with bad behavior because rules are rules and disabilities are not excuses for bad behavior and rule-breaking.
Life isn't always a bed of roses. It never has. So the best thing that every parent can do for their child is to prepare them for that. Parents should not be worried if their child is handicapped or normal because in the end it won't matter. All is fair and the sooner we help our kids learn how to properly solve problems on their own, the better. What they will learn from life gives us parents the added satisfaction.
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