How to get along with your children
How to get along with your children
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instructions of the Lord. Ephesians 6:4
One of the major problems or challenges that parents are facing over their children is how to get along with them as they are growing up. In many homes today the relationship between the young people and their parents are under attack. Cordial relationships no longer exist the way it should in some families. There are so many pressures that families often experience that disrupt the harmony of the home today. Along with these pressures is the ever-present generational gap between the parents and their children, which makes it very difficult to get along together. Some singles or young ones stay away from their parents because they have difficulties in discussing their issues and challenges with their parents. Especially when parents are too tough. To make the matter worse, some parents do not even have time to listen to them or show concern.
However, as Christians, you are not supposed to have problems with your children. You should expect that the young ones would experience different challenges while growing up. Puberty, peer pressure, wrong stuffs and bad relationships are just few examples. Therefore, you must tighten your belt in other to help your children to scale through to success. As they grow up, their circle of friendship and level of exposure starts to change. Moreover, these will create more pressure and the possibilities of falling into wrong associations. There will be external influence and temptation to join others. Friends are also there to cause roadblocks, especially the wrong ones.
Nevertheless, parents cannot fight this trait by being hard or even soft on your children. When you are hard, the child will stay away, and when soft, you will pamper and encourage the problem. I am not saying there should not be any chastening or discipline in the home. The scripture says : For the Lord disciplines whom he loves, and chastises every son whom he receive...If you are left without discipline, in which all have participated, then you are illegitimate children and not sons. Hebrews 12 : 6 & 8
To enjoy free cordial relationship, you must allow the word of God to work in your relationship with them, and trust God to help you so that you will not fail in parenting & raising godly children. This few steps will help you to get along with your children.
1. BE A LIVING EXAMPLE AND A ROLE MODEL.
It was not because we have not that right, but to give you in our conduct an example to imitate. 2 Thessalonians 3 :9.
The biggest mirror of life where your children can see their true picture is ''YOU''. Parents are meant to be a role model for their home. You are the one to lay a strong foundation where your children will start building the structure of their tomorrow. Be a good example to them by walking the walk, not just talking the talk.
It is very important for you to know that they must be able to conveniently model themselves on you. And, of course, that is what makes you a great parent to them. As a father or mother, you can be an object of scorn and familiarity, when there is nothing about you that keep motivating, inspiring and challenging them to do well or pursue their visions in life.
For the fact that your children are watching you every step of the way, is enough reason why you must be careful about your own life. Because you cannot make them what you are not, neither can you offer what you do not have.
Be a model of integrity.
The just man walks in his integrity, his children are blessed after him. Proverbs 20 : 7
You must have the quality of being honest and never decline in your moral standard and values. Let your children find you to be honest, a man of his word. For those who have strong moral sense and values, the scripture says their children are blessed after them. ...his children are blessed after him. Do you notice "after" in that scripture above? It means, when his children model themselves on him, they were found to be a blessing to their generation.
You are already a fulfilled parent when your child can get to a point where he can trust your word and fully depend on your counsel or judgment. The psalmist says:
"I will be careful to live a blameless life...I will lead a life of integrity in my own home. I will refuse to look at anything vile and vulgar psalm 101 : 2-3.
This is to let you understand that your own home is the first place where you must live by example. Where you must start an honest and transparent life.
If you are pure and live with integrity, he will rise up and restore your happy home. And though you started with little, you will end with much. Job 8 : 6-7.
Be a model of fidelity.
Loyalty is very important in your home as parents. Your faithfulness to your wife or husband will as well have effect on your kids. Marital infidelity in any Christian home is a slap in the face of God. It is an abuse, insults and disgrace to the body of Christ. You are expected to be loyal to your spouse as long as you live.
The kind of work you are doing may cause a little distance from home or your wife, yet, your fidelity must be kept. Distance must not serve as an avenue to create an affair outside your home. This word may be hard, because it is not meant for everybody, but for those who desires fulfillment in their lives, homes and for their children.
If you realize that you are the map your children will take along with them on the road to greatness in life, then you will map out your life very well. So, if you are such an important materials they must carry along, do not cause an extra load, extra pain, extra burden, wounds and inconveniences for them.
Your own joy, rest and peace tomorrow lie in what you are imparting into their life today. Fidelity or infidelity in a home is a seed for the next generation to come, don't sow it. Be loyal to your spouse with the mind that you are laying the same foundation for children.
Be a model of humility.
Children has tendency to become very proud especially when their parents are well to do. God is a God that cherishes a life humility and total submission. He sets his dwelling with anyone who is found to be submissive and humble. As the scripture says, God hates a proud look. God hates i.e. anyone who seems to exalt himself or think of himself than he should.
Do not let your position, power, prominence and influence gets into your head. Lest you are passing a wrong message to your children. God desires a heart of humility. As a parent who is set to lay a good example for others or your home, be a model of humility. God says ...I dwell...with him also who is of a contrite and humble spirit. Isaiah 57 : 15. God may bless your marriage with prosperity and different or better than others. Teach your children to know that it is just God's mercy, and it is not your work.
Many of the rich families, children there are mostly found wealth. Yet, it does not mean you deserve it or you are to be very proud, because they see themselves to be better than they see other children out there. A Christian home should not be like that. Bring your kids under perfect submission before anybody, God and you. Let them not see themselves as more fortunate & important than anyone. If they cannot respect people out there, very soon you will start loosing your own respect as a parent.
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