Divorce and Its Effect On Teenagers - 3 Typical Effects
Saying that divorce is a roller coaster ride for everyone involved is an understatement at best. How do the terms "Category 5 Hurricane" or "8.0 Earthquake" fit - maybe a bit better?
Yes, divorce is universally-acknowledged as a real shakeup for the lives of not only the couple who are splitting up, but also for their extended family, friends, neighbors, and . . . of course their own kids.
Some say that teenagers are the biggest "victims" of divorce, but that may not be a fair characterization of the situation. After all, in some cases a divorce is deemed by all involved to entirely warranted, especially when one or both partners have been abusive or have serially strayed outside the marriage.
And, to be honest, the divorce is not meant to harm or otherwise affect the lives of the kids - and it could well have some long-term benefits (depending upon a range of factors).
If you are considering divorce, are going through one, or know someone who is doing so - you are probably wondering about divorce and its effect on teenagers. Here are 3 common effects:
1. Teenagers resent being treated like a piece of furniture:
Many teenagers whose parents are going through divorce often feel like they are being treated or looked at by their parents more as a personal possession - like a piece of furniture - than as a human being. This is an understandable reaction. Many couples going through divorce get so caught up in their own personal animosities, feelings of anger and resentment that they become extremely insensitive to their kids' needs.
2. They can feel de-valued by one or both parents:
In some divorce situations, one of the parents may just one day up and leave town. This could be a temporary "getaway" - or it may be the sign of a permanent move. Either way, such sudden and drastic actions may seem perfectly sensible to the parent who made the move. But, to their kids who feel left out of the loop, this can seem like the ultimate selfish act.
3. Teens can feel insecure about their future:
For a teenager or any young person, their parents' marriage is one of the few things they can count on in their lives. Even though they are not aware of its effect on them, it is like a "given" that has always been there and presumably always would. But, when the prospect of divorce raises its head, suddenly that bedrock of security shakes as if an earthquake had hit. This leads to feelings of great insecurity for the teens.
As you explore or go through divorce yourself, be sure to take into account these 3 common effects of divorce on teenagers.
Divorce and Its Effect On Teenagers - 3 Typical Effects
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