Tackling Problem Children -Good Child Care
Tackling Problem Children -Good Child Care
Psychologically, problems can be classified into two types. One type is the problems 'to the children' both physically and mentally. The other type is the problems 'by the children' in various matters affecting the whole atmosphere of the family.
Type I problems are related to speech, handicapped, left handedness, bad dreams, nightmares, nails biting, thumb sucking,etc.
Type II problems are related to delinquency, aggressiveness, bullying, obstinacy, temper tantrums, telling lies, sibling rivalry, etc.
Identifying the problems:
Type I problems are normally physical problems while the others are mental based. The former can be identified and cured if proper medical care is taken. But the later can neither be easily identified nor be cured absolutely. The parents find it difficult when the second type problems are with their children. Only experts in psychology can analyze the problems by counseling and suggest remedy. The various 'problems by the children' are discussed as follows.
Delinquency:
We know stealing, gambling, cheating, violence, pick pocketing, raping and similar such antisocial acts are criminal natured. If any of one such is committed by an adult, he or she is punished with penalty or imprisonment or both. When such things are done by children up to twelve years, they are called delinquencies. Again they are of two types called potential delinquents and actual delinquents. When the criminal acts are at mind level, the children are called potential delinquents and when they actually indulge in action, they are called actual delinquents. Both are equally bad and harmful to the society.
The essential feature of delinquent character whether potential or actual is due to 'momentary pleasure seeking' impulses arising with the children now and on. It is noteworthy that the delinquents have no control over this character or give a check against the impulses. Consequently, they continue to indulge in antisocial activities until being detected and caught with red hand. The basic reason for delinquency is the home condition and friends circle.
Aggressiveness:
Aggressiveness is a show of temper. It is sometimes normal and usual. Such character is serious when it is persistent and unusual in certain cases. Aggressive children are problem children only in case of unusual and unnecessary behavior in one hand as well as regular and persistent on the other hand.
There are two types of aggressiveness. One type is to cause damage on other objects and people. They are called the 'sadistic' with externalized cause from the surrounding world. The other type is to express the anger on him and is called the 'masochistic' with internalized reasons. The children are tyrants in school, feel frustrated, interfere in others' affair, need love from others, adventurous and feel unsecured.
Obstinacy:
Obstinate children are always contradicting, rebellious with others, arguing for everything, not flexible but rigid in many things. Obstinacy is similar to aggressiveness. The behavior will be somewhat rude and rough. Disobedience is another nature with obstinate children. In many cases, it is due to sibling rivalry when the parents show unequal importance for different children of their own. Obstinate children try to get the things done by such indifferent behavior towards others particularly with the parents.
Shyness and hesitation:
Feeling shyness in everything is another problem with many children. If there is meaningless shyness and hesitation, the children cannot do anything with own effort. Such children are always in the mercy of their parents and friends in getting the things done. It is a hurdle against the progress for the child and there is less chance to achieve the goal.
Fear, anger and anxiety:
These qualities are undesirable since they give a set back for doing anything with confidence. For anything, confidence is mostly needed for achieving the goal. If there is meaningless fear and anger, the child will be loosing many things to own. Fear is a submissive character and anger is destructive character. Eagerness is a desirable character while undue anxiety causes personal disappointment in some cases. Skin Care for Teens Minnesota Certified Boot Camps for Unruly Children Important Tips for Planning Cruises with Children Monster truck toys, for you and your children Monster truck toys for children and adults Plan For Treating ADHD - What is Best For Your Child? Non Medicinal Treatment of ADHD - How to Raise Happier Children Without Relying on Amphetamines! ADHD Treatment Alternatives - Choose Your Options, Weigh the Risks, and Raise a Happier Child Children Books: Their Importance & Popularity Specialized Therapy for Children with Anxiety Disorders Find wide range of kids canvas wall art online Watch The Karate Kid (2010) Online Free Top 3 Really Cute Baby Halloween Costumes For Your Children This Year