Positive Parenting - Solutions To Child Misbehavior
Positive Parenting - Solutions To Child Misbehavior
Are you feeling you are a bad parent because your child is OUT OF CONTROL? The first thing you need to understand is that...IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!
You want them to be happy and healthy and successful in life and you would do anything for their wellbeing...
BUT SOMETIMES YOUR CHILD JUST DRIVES YOU CRAZY
Did you ever see a mother go ballistic on her child at the park? It is late in the day, mom is hungry and tired and wants to go home to prepare dinner. But her daughter is having so much fun that she puts up a fuss and DEFIES her mother.
Then the MUTATION begins and the loving mother transforms into a Scary Monster!
Yelling and yanking her child into the car while the kid throws a tantrum. It's like watching a train wreck in slow motion, painful to look at,but also impossible to look away.
THE REASON WHY KIDS DON'T LISTEN, DON'T OBEY AND SOMETIMES JUST DRIVE YOU NUTS
You know how you feel when you get stressed, you can actually feel the stress affect your body, your emotions and your thinking. Well, the reason you feel that is because the Adrenal Glands release Toxic Hormones into your body called Cortisol.
What typically happens before a child misbehaves is there is a gradual increase of Cortisol in the brain. This will cause children to become Hyperactive, Defiant, Argumentative, Whiney, Throw Tantrums, Not Listen and become Physically Violent and Aggressive.
Simply put, what this means is that whenever Cortisol Levels go DOWN, children will listen, behave and relate better. And when Cortisol Levels go UP, children will misbehave. Most parents are causing Cortisol levels to GO UP in their children by THE WAY THEY DISCIPLINE.
THE BEST DISCIPLINE IS DISCIPLINE WITHOUT REWARDS OR PUNISHMENTS.
Using punishment gets kids to obey out of FEAR and using rewards also gets kids to obey out of fear. That's the fear of NOT getting the reward or their parents approval. So in both cases their motivation is FEAR, not love or sincere cooperation.
Fear causes our body's natural defense mechanism called the Flight or Fight Reaction. It is a surge of hormones into your body giving you a rush of energy so you can Fight or Run from danger. This is why rewards or punishments may seem to work at first, but if steps to decrease the Cortisol level are not taken, the misbehavior keeps coming back.
Soon neither method will have any effect, leading to all kinds of meltdowns, arguments,tantrums, back-talk and violent outbursts will continue or get Worse.
So, this makes REWARDS and PUNISHMENT the LEAST EFFECTIVE WAY to get any child to listen and respect you.
TWO POWERFUL KEYS TO GET YOUR CHILD TO REALLY LISTEN
Key number 1 - You need to realize that you are surrounded by parents who discipline their children the WRONG WAY!
If you think that "Time Outs" and "Raising Your Voice" are necessary to discipline your child Think Again. These practices actually are making things WORSE.
Key Number 2 - The 3 Reasons for Misbehavior are...
1- they have a Legitimate Need like food, water, rest or affection.
2- they are Stressed and have Cortisol buildup in the brain and are not thinking clearly.
3- they Need Information as they may not know that their behavior is undesirable
YOUR CHILD'S MISBEHAVIOR IS NOT ALWAYS CAUSED BY STRESS
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