Learning Parenting Skills For Today's World
Parenting is a skill just like being an effective leader
. Parents who have been encountering difficulties with their child rearing may want to consider brushing up on their parenting skills.
Parenting Skills Primer: If what you've been doing as a parent hasn't been working for you please don't blame your child. Children are a bit like a blank canvas is to an artist. If the artist can't paint she doesn't blame her canvas for the poor picture. She learns new techniques.
Good parenting is a matter of following the principle that it is the responsibility of the parent to communicate effectively with their child. For parents who have found this challenging it may be time to brush up on parenting skills.
The first step is to do a self assessment to determine what your ineffective parenting style is. A simple parenting styles quiz can show you how your current parenting style has been affecting your children. Because the quiz has no right or wrong answers and results are not saved (but are emailed to you) you can feel comfortable being honest with yourself on the quiz.
Managing Child Behavior
To manage your child's behavior you'll need to be aware of a few things: 1.Attention. Children crave attention. If they can't get any positive attention they may do things to get their parents to react even if it is with anger, To children it is better to be yelled at than to be ignored.
2. Set Limits. When you set boundaries to your children's behavior you actually give them a sense of security. All children need a set of rules that define what they can and can't do.
3.Children need consistency. When you set up rules you must enforce them consistently without fail. Arguing and negotiating with your children when they misbehave only encourages your child to become a manipulator.
4. Always set and enforce consequences for misbehavior.
5.Recognize good behavior in your child. Parents who notice good behavior and give their child praise, affection and rewards cause their child to want to please them. Notice the good things your child does; praise your child and be generous with your affection. Your child won't take advantage of your affection if you remember to be consistent about setting boundaries.
6. Play time. Play is an important part of a child's development and it shouldn't be structured. As a parent seeking to have more influence over your child's behavior one thing you can do is spend time with your child playing. Laugh and play with your child at least a few minutes every day and you'll begin to see a real transformation in their attitude.
Parenting Skill: Using The Code of The Samurai Behavior Wheel A behavior wheel is a device or software that randomly selects a consequence for a child based on certain behaviors. Because the spinning disc randomly selects the penalty for misbehavior it takes the emotionalism of having a parent who is angry away from the outcome.
One of your parenting skill sets is using the behavior wheel software correctly. Here's how: 1. When your child misbehaves everything must stop and you must take your child to the computer and open the behavior wheel program.
2. When a parent logs into the program and the child see his Avatar he can click on it to open his account. Each participating child selects an Avatar to represent him or her. Each child begins the week with 100 points. Misbehavior costs a child points while doing good "stuff" earns extra points. Children will compete with each other to see who winds up with the most points and rewards.
3. Once the child's "account" appears he or she will see how many points are left from the 100 points every child begins each week with. At this time you will discuss what just happened so that your child understands they broke the rules. Select from the list of behaviors that you had pre-loaded into the program. If this is a new type behavior you can add that behavior at this time.
4. Sound effects and the brightly colored, spinning wheel will hold your child's attention while the spinning wheel eventually lands on one of the positions on the wheel. This is an excellent time for parent and child to discuss what he can do better in the future. Positive reinforcement works exactly the same when you notice your child doing something worthy of positive recognition. Your child will be excited to see how many points he has earned and what kind of reward he can expect.
The Code of The Samurai Behavior Wheel can help many parents solve troubling behavior problems with their children. For more persistent or long established behavior issues all parents should seriously consider learning some new parenting skills. A good parenting skills course can teach new parenting skills to parents who need help.
by: David Davies..
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