Fear Rejection No More: Learn #1 Secret Dating Gurus Always Use To Overcome Fear
Fear Rejection No More: Learn #1 Secret Dating Gurus Always Use To Overcome Fear
If you fear rejection, how can you approach women in public? Should you man-up and take it when your heart gets ripped out by a rejecting female? No, you never need to feel the kind of rejection that stops you from ever trying to meet a beautiful girl.
Here's what top dating gurus know that you don't: They know what real rejection is, and that it doesn't really happen to guys like you (we'll get to that in a bit). Once you know what rejection is and is not, you won't fear rejection as much, probably not at all.
So let's define what rejection is not:
It is not being told "no thank you". If a woman says she doesn't have time to talk, simply move on. That is not rejection. Just assume that what she said is what she meant. If a girl says she is here to talk with a friend, listen. Leave her to talk with her friend. That is not rejection. Simply move on.
Now let's clarify what rejection is:
Rejection is extreme humiliation involving a women dissing you in front of everyone within ear shotor accusing you of harassment.
How many times has that happened to you? If you are an average guy, probably never. If some jerk ignores it when a girl says no thinks, and keeps pushing it, that might be met with true rejection. You are not a jerk or you would not be reading, wanting to get better at dealing with women successfully. So...you can just move on if she says "no thanks" or "I don't have time...", remember the teaching of philosopher Marcus Aralias:
An emerald is always an emerald. If called a useless little pebble, that doesn't change the emeralds' innate characteristics. You are the same after a woman isn't interested, as you were before you approached her. Go and talk to another one.
The next one may have time to talk. Another way to manage rejection is to realize that it is not rejection itself, but Fear of rejection that can ruin your chances with beautiful women, because:
--Fear of rejection prior to interaction with women is rehearsed failure in your head, injecting fear into every pore of your body. Fear...that can be smelled a mile away.
--You'll mistake a polite "no" from a girl as rejection, and then plunge head long into self defeat, rendering yourself out of commission for the day, if not the week or entire month.
You can choose to rehearse or visualize success, just as easily as you can rehearse failure & fear of rejection. What you rehearse is what you get. If this sounds unbelievable, try it. This is the law of attraction. The law works when you feel as if you already have what you want, instead of just thinking.
Now that you are willing to cast off your fear of rejection, here are some actions and thought patterns that will empower you with fearlessness, and a sense of fun when approaching new women in public.
Pick something to say and practice in front of the mirror until you can say it no matter whether the woman is Miss USA or your sister's cousin. Practice on store clerks. Go to the mall, they are paid to be nice so you have a great shield from their disapproval. Upon talking to dozens of store clerks if necessary go to all the malls in your area you'll realize that approaching women and girls all day, you are still fine, you haven't' been humiliated, yelled at or hauled off to jail.
You have approached all these women for a reason. Because doing something repeatedly and finding out that it's no big deal, in fact it's fun, causes a positive expectation.
This is desensitizing, removing the fear of rejection. You replace negative expectations of rejection with positive expectations: Talking to girls will be cool, the ones you practiced on were nice to you and you did a lot better than you thought you would.
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