Domestic Violence Divorce - The Cobra Batterer, Child Custody Seeker
Domestic Violence Divorce - The Cobra Batterer
, Child Custody SeekerHave you ever noticed how some abusers will fight you to the end for custody and others give it up and walk away? Now this observation may be contrary to common understanding by those in the domestic violence divorce circles. However, from the clinical perspective, these are the trends.In the 90's Drs. Jacobson and Gottman describe the difference between two kinds of batterers. They call one group the Pit Bulls and the other the Cobras.Pit Bulls and Child CustodyPit Bulls usually come from fathers who battered their mothers. They are immature, unpredictable, unrelenting and demanding of changes from their victims. Many of these batterers are more likely to abuse alcohol.They are emotionally dependent on their wives, and need to control and dominate their partners. They are motivated by fear of abandonment, which produces jealous rage and a strong need to control their wife's life.When they strike, they are highly aroused. This is what primarily distinguishes them from their Cobra counterparts.Their wives are enraged and feel entrapped. Pit bulls are easier to leave, and are more dangerous after leaving in the long run.This author observes that when it comes to child custody, Pit Bulls are more likely to give it up than they are to hang on and fight for custody as part of their divorce.Cobras and Child CustodyCobras, on the other hand, do not walk away from child custody. They fight to the end often leaving the mother of their children homeless, penniless and childless. These are the women we see with supervised visitation after divorce from a Cobra abuser.Cobras often were abused as children by their parents. They are hedonistic, impulsive, antisocial, con artists, and they exploit and manipulate others. Cobras may use or become dependent on illegal drugs.Their personal commitments are superficial. They do not fear abandonment, but they will not be controlled. Cobras severely abuse their wives to insure getting what they want when they want it.When they strike, they are internally calm, contrary to the Pit Bull batterer. Cobras are very frightening, yet captivating to their wives. They are harder to leave, and are more dangerous after leaving in the short run.Domestic Violence, Cobras and Child CustodyIf you are in divorce court with a Cobra batterer, beware of their character and prepare for the fight of your life. It is not the children that they seek; it is the conquest. Their divorce war is often about "saving face," "getting even" and "coming out on top"winning or stealing child custody right from under their victimized partner's arms. Christmas Gifts for a Teenager - 2010 Christmas Gifts For A Child - 2010 The Top Toys For Boys Rock for 2010 Can Paxil Be To Blame For Your Child's Tetralogy Of Fallot? Savings For Child Financially Prepares Them For Their Future Opening Savings For Child Assist Them In The Long Run Why Guardians Should Create Savings For Child How To Encourage Saving For Children From Day One How To Promote Saving For Children How to Watch The Karate Kid Movie for free in legal way? Just read these! Saving For Children How To Encourage It Easy Money Making Ideas For Kids Simple Money Making Ideas For Kids