Children's Behaviour: Good At Home, Bad At School - How Do You Solve This?

Different behaviors at home and at school. Yes, maybe some parents get surprised feeling the difference in behavior of their children. At home kids can be "little angels", but at school - "little devils". Or, the other way around - at school children are happy and willing, but at house turn into dissasters.

Why does it happen? There are various causes. One of them is transition between life in school and at home. Previously when at home, kids just socialize with people close to the environment, such as father, mother, brother or sister.

Meanwhile, when entering the school environment, they have to socialize with a wider audience: teachers, friends, gardeners, and friend-parent. Beside this, in 3-5 years age range, according to Piaget, children are still egocentric. That is why children do not have the ability to consider others' viewpoints. Everything is still centered on themselves. So, when they act, they don't consider interests of others. "When he wanted his friend's band where considered attractive, he immediately pulled the ribbon. He was not thinking, that behavior could harm other people because it can damage her hair."

It could also, his behavior was due to child seeking attention, mainly from people in their environment, whether home or school environment. When at home, your child can easily get the attention, perhaps even always the center of attention because of the number of family members is not much. Unlike when he was in school, where 2 teachers should pay attention to approximately 10-15 students in one class. Automated portion of interest earned was a little less. This condition eventually trigger the little "acting up", just to seek attention from the teacher or friend at school. It could also be vice versa, the child's feeling of attention when he was in the school environment, but did not receive the attention on the home environment. As a result, the child was "acting up" so that the people closest in the house give attention.

For another, he might not understand the rules and ethics that apply in the new environment accessible. That is, the rules must be different at school with the rules at home. When at home may be too permissive parents, the child was not allowed to use his own stuff without asking permission first. This rule, of course, can not be applied when at school. And vice versa.

Bridge Communications

Solutions to overcome this problem is to build a communication bridge between school, parents and children. Parents describe the rules usually applied at home, the behaviors used to do, and so on. Schools teacher should also routinely provide information about the development of learning processes, activities or students who do children's misbehavior in school.

That way, both parents and teachers can find out and soon can anticipate / to find the best solution of the problems faced by children. Vice versa, if parents know or find a behavior that is "wrong" at home, they can immediately inform the school. Because maybe it is not his fault, but the upbringing, discipline, or other causes triggers.

If this communication bridge formed properly, so both parties can work together to find the best solution. Bridge this communication should also be created with the children. Create a harmonious communication between children and parents, as well as schools with children.

Through good communication, the school and parents can find child's desire, obstacles, and so forth, so that the resolution of problems can be more easily and thoroughly.

Communicating with children are not hard. Do it in a friendly atmosphere and create a relaxed conversation, do not pitched investigate. Chatting at the same time also be useful as a medium to vent emotions, and find the cause and respond to child behavior. In this way, the child's negative behavior is expected to be muted.

Examples of Parents

Parents and those closest to children should be a good model. Remember, in this age range, children are imitating, in accordance with the cognitive development that still preoperational.

In addition, make sure that parents apply the rule and positive values at home. Parents also need to find out from the child, what are the rules that are not understood, what the rules are also different. Next, provide an explanation of the differences in simple language.

by: John Don

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