Child Discipline Techniques - How To Get Help When You Need It
Child Discipline Techniques - How To Get Help When You Need It
I have just read a shocking report about the lack of child discipline techniques. A major charity received over 80,000 calls from parents in a two year period. Of that total, about a third were from parents who were reporting and seeking help for child behavior problems. The major problem was verbal abuse followed by physical aggression. It certainly seems that child-on-parent abuse is on the increase.
So, how do you get help when you are in a similar situation? Have you got a system in place to stop the verbal abuse, the threats, insults and the defiant oppositional behavior that goes with it?
Most child discipline techniques will concentrate on enabling parents to put a comprehensive system in place which draws on a set of guidelines and procedures so that parents can use these with confidence when things get really tough.
Most parents I know who can deal with this sort of verbal abuse have a big red poster on the fridge door which says that there is no excuse for abuse. They have also explained to their kids that they are totally accountable for any behavior like that and they have to put up with the consequences which have been laid down.
If the bottom line like this is not in place, then younger and older kids will start to take over and also upset siblings and start a terror campaign.
A common tactic with these kids is that they never take responsibility for what they have done. They always blame the parent or the sibling. They may even apologize in a sort of a way but they always justify their awful behavior by saying that really it was not their fault.
This is another way of saying that they have no intention of changing their behavior at all and that they are continuing like that. This is where the parent has to insist that they take responsibility and are fully accountable for their actions.