The Importance of Losing For Children
The Importance of Losing For Children
He said, "I am a success today because I've failed many times in the past". How appropriate a sentence especially when we are living in a society which is still relatively failure intolerant.
I've decided to elaborate more about this topic as it's always ideal to cultivate certain habits in a child, and dealing with failures and mistakes is definitely one of them. It is a fact that nobody likes to lose; everybody wants to be a winner, kids included. To be on the winning side is fantastic. However, we must be practical and realized that it is definitely impossible to keep winning all the time.
When a child made a mistake, it is only normal that the parents stepped in and point out the mistake. Very often, the tone and manner of the parent is extremely important. Too harsh or negative a tone will in the long term, result in the child being too afraid to attempt anything. He has so much fear of being reprimanded that he may become withdrawn, and could end up having a phobia of trying. He may also tend to feel that everyone is watching his actions and he is subjected to their opinions and judgments.
Hence, it is highly crucial that the parents do their part in nurturing the young ones. One important part of the process is to let them understand that it is alright to commit a mistake. Depending on the mistake made, not all require a huge dressing down from the parent. The parents must let the child learn and understand from his or her failures. A child likes to explore many things, and instead of the parent focusing on the consequences of failure, one possible way is just to sit back and let the child try it. The parent could then step in and do some explanations, corrections and encouragements too.
Of course, there must be a nice compromise between failure and success. Put it this way, a child who fails all the way probably will require a lot of effort to succeed, and a child who succeed all the time will only require a single failure to shatter him to pieces. Protecting your child from both successes and failures are important. There is one universal tip though - always strive to educate and bring up your child in the most optimistic and positive manner. By achieving this, you will motivate your child to perform even better the next time, and also build up his self confidence. Supportive parents are the precursors to all high performance kids and countless research has supported this findings.
Justine Lee contributes to articles as part of the committee of a parenting website founded in Singapore. She writes for [http://www.mylittlesunshine.sg] on a regular basis and likes to share her parenting experiences with other online readers. She is happily married to her husband Jason and have a boy who is eight years old. Millions of Custodial Parents Have Not Filed For Child Support - Steps on How to File Parental care - Are we making our future investment on children? Texting While Driving - A Teen Killer Early Childhood Training: Developing Learning That Lasts Hypnotherapy can help your child that suffers from Asthma What Makes Kids Laugh? ADHD Drugs For Kids - Looking At An Alternative Which Will Not Turn Your Child Into A Zombie Find the Right Toys Learning About Child Safety Products Why You Should Be Investing in Learning Toys for Your Children Arizona River Runners Guides Children to Nature How That can help a Kid Boost Their Reading Pace Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder – How To Choose A Treatment Plan Which Is Right For Your Child