How to Talk and Connect Instantly With Any Women, Anywhere
How to Talk and Connect Instantly With Any Women
, AnywhereWhy is creating connection with a woman so important? And how can
you achieve it?
I will be giving you a female perspective on this, and will show
you the steps you need to understand in order for you to obtain a
deep and significant connection with a woman.
I will also explain why you can benefit immensely if you manage
to make a deep connection with her and how you can use this
particular skill for years to come.
External/surface/superficial connection
This is the type of connection that guys should make if they are
in a rush, and literally don't have time to make a deeper
connection with the woman, (i.e. day game when she is rushing a
long a busy street) this is usually fairly easy to do.
Examples of surface connections:
-Enjoying the same type of films
-Coming from the same town
-Doing the same line of work
-Sharing any general interests or hobbies
-Sharing the same sense of humour
-Liking the same type of music
In a world consisting of billions of people. We can find a
certain sense of comfort by finding even the most flimsy form of
connection with a random person. Whether it's the fact that they
come from the same area/town that we are from. Whether we share
the same Zodiac sign (sad but true) or if they happen to be in
the same line of work as us.
Making surface connections with a woman are also a good way to
create a "reason" (other than seducing her) to meet up again.
Man: "Yeah, he's one of my favourite actors too, we should catch
that new movie he's in.." etc etc
This information is all very obvious and is common knowledge, so
there is no need for me to elaborate the point any further of why
obtaining surface connections can be very useful.
However, if you DO have time, you should try your best to make a
deeper connection with her.
Making a deeper connection with a woman would create a number of
changes in the her state of mind and would alter her opinion of
you (positively of course), and as a result of these slight mind
shifts forming on in her head, mood shifts will follow, and
finally the energy and direction of the interaction between you
both will improve dramatically.
Making a deeper connection will get her to open up, and start
explaining how she FEELS and REACTS about things. And this will
give you a wonderful insight in to her mind (ever heard the
expression that knowledge and information is power?)
A deeper connection creates a "special" and "private" moment
between you and her that no one else can touch or get in to.
When a deeper connection is made, a moment is created, where she
feels like you 'know' her (and she knows you) on a very personal
level (psychologically)
And by doing this she temporarily places you in the same category
as the people in her life that she has known for years. These are
people who she can trust, who she respects and they are people
who she can be comfortable and relaxed with.
Understanding the formula of making deep connection helps men to
reduce the chances of getting flaky numbers.
So why do men avoid making deep connection?
Men usually have much more of a "bravado" in comparison to woman,
and they are much more conscious of what image they wish to
display to others, and generally men will only lower that bravado
and drop the "bull shit" with a very few select people. Some men
cannot even bare the thought of crying in front of people; even
the very idea makes them cringe.
Men view strength, confidence and success as the attractive
qualities they must uphold in order to obtain respect from both
men and woman, and so obviously crying or admitting that they
have problems, fears, Insecurities etc would only serve to damage
their image that they have spent years in perfecting.
Now DON'T PANIC! I know you are thinking that this is going to be
the part where I try to change you, and tell you to drop the
bravado and start showing your inner emotions, fears,
vulnerabilities and insecurities and become one of these 'new age
metrosexual men'
ABSOLUTELY NOT!
I can't think of anything worse than going out with a "big girls
blouse" This is a term I unfortunately find myself using more and
more due to the fact that men are being told to act like "a wimp"
in order to connect with woman.
Having a guy take me out on a date, and who wants to talk about
emotions and feelings all evening and how he feels weak and/or
unloved or a guy who wants to divulge every nitty gritty
insecurity he has would completely turn me off, . Me and my
friends often ring each other after an unsuccessful date, and
it's becoming increasingly more common for us to complain that
the man made us feel too strong, too alpha too powerful for him
to handle. Anyway, that's a different story for another time.
The point I'm making here, is that I have no intention in giving
you any advice that will make you come across needy, new age,
metrosexual or effeminate. (There's enough woman monthly
magazines making a good job of that already)
Women do not share the guys obsessive need to KEEP UP SOME SORT
OF BRAVADO. Granted that woman DO where bravado, but the
difference is that they can feel a great sense of relief when it
comes down. (Unlike men who feel temporarily exposed and
vulnerable when their bravado comes down)
We are more open to talking about how we feel, our insecurities,
fears and needs, but because men feel that divulging such
information to a stranger is almost alien to them. They
subsequently presume that women feel the same, and so they choose
to avoid making deeper connections with the woman.
Us women however, do not consider that talking about our
problems, feelings, insecurities and emotions as weak. We can
really enjoy and embrace that moment when we can finally stop
playing the role of "Miss Bitch" or "Miss Perfect" or "Miss Sex
Kitten" or whatever role we have chosen to convey for that
evening, week, month, life time. It really feels like a sense of
release when we can be "our selves",
Men would do well to understand this about woman, and rather than
him seeing it through his own perspective, he should instead see
it through her eyes..
Just because your mates don't want to open up and share their
feelings with one and other, and just because you might see it as
an act which could tarnish your reputation or image, doesn't mean
that woman share this view point.
Do not presume that the girl with "The bitch bravado" is a cold
heartless and evil person. Do not presume that the "shy girl
mask" is boring and has nothing shocking or interesting to offer.
Do not presume that the girl with "Bimbo" image is empty and
insincere. Like you guys we put on a mask and create a bravado,
alter ego what ever you want to call it for a number of different
reasons. If you can get past that mask, you will not embarrass
her or make feel uncomfortable like how most men would feel.
Instead you will make her feel relaxed and the respect she has
for you will increase dramatically. Far more than the guys who
get caught up on just the surface level.
In the next part I will share with you the step-by-step process
that I teach my students in order for them to obtain a deep and
lasting connection with a woman, with out you having to alter the
macho / alpha strong image that you might have worked on for so
long perfecting.
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