Staying under the Parents' Wings versus Flying the Nest
Staying under the Parents' Wings versus Flying the Nest
Desire to spread one's wings
The hyperprotection of some parents may result in the children's protest and opposition to their care. Being deprived of the basic right for having opinion of their own children wait for the moment they can escape the overall control. Children in such families consciously or subconsciously choose the college situating as far from their native town as it is possible. They fly the nest at the first opportunity to do it. The problem is that after having been hyperprotected the whole their life they are not ready to spread their wings.
Wearing the rose-coloured spectacles and being deprived of freedom has negative impact on one's personality. The picture of life of the hyperprotected children is distorted. It is difficult for them to tell good from bad. They are not aware of the difficulties and challenges of the real life. Facing the first challenges of college life can be too difficult for them and their wings can be clipped.
The problem of generation gap
It is necessary to realize that escape will not solve the problems. It is not wise to choose the college being guided only by the factor of its location. The person can enjoy the freedom for the nearest few years, while the problem of relations with parents will remain forever. By the way, the choice of the college is consequential. It means that the choice of the future profession must be prior to the infantile desire to demonstrate one's independence.
If the college with the necessary specialization situates in another town, the child is not to be afraid of it. In such families the process of maturation is impossible without flying the nest. Struggling against the first difficulties of the adults' life may have positive impact on the personality of the student: