, especially when we're basing decisions on how we were raised. We use old-fashioned parenting techniques because that's how we were raised. While those parenting tips may have seemed right to our parents, there are some ideas that just don't work anymore. Positive parenting means understanding our children, and finding ways to teach them to be happy with who they are, and what they are doing. Try to understand yourself, and be ready to put that aside when you're deciding what's best for each child.