What You Should Never Do After the Breakup - Part 1
What You Should Never Do After the Breakup - Part 1
The period right after the break up is often a highly emotional and confusing time. Sadness, despair, denial, maybe even anger, all war for the upper hand. You may feel shame and remorse if you caused the break up by cheating or by otherwise being a retard. You may feel righteous indignation or betrayal if you were the one wronged. But in any case, what you do after the break will determine what chances you will have to get your ex back.
What you need to avoid:
Self-pity. Crying your eyes out may seem appropriate but it's self-destructive. Have a good cry and let out all the hurt, but pick up the pieces as soon as you can. Give yourself a morale boost by going shopping for a new wardrobe or getting a spa treatment.
Isolation. You may not feel like being around people right now, but that's a sure fire way of getting yourself into a morose rut. Your friends and family can be a great tonic for you to get over your hurt and loneliness. It will also help you get a little perspective on the way.
Criticism. Avoid telling tales out of school about your ex. What you had was a relationship, and it was a good one if you decided you want your ex back, so keep your secrets. Sure, it feels good to make scathing remarks about the person who hurt you right now, but you may be driving a wedge between you that you will find hard to close after. Be careful what you say about your ex; it may come back to haunt you.
Blame. If you are in the wrong, by all means be ready to make reparations. But wallowing in self-blame will not help you get your ex back. You need to be proactive and positive if you hope to get back into your relationship. If your ex was the culprit, laying blame will only make it that much more difficult to get through the problem. Be generous.
Rebound. Don't try to fill the gap left by your ex by jumping into another relationship at once, no matter how casual. While no man is an island, neither should one be a tourist spot. Give yourself some time to heal and get yourself together before getting involved again. If you want your ex back, then don't shut the door on reconciliation by involving a third party.
When and if you are ready to attempt reconciliation, the first phase after the break up will be a major factor on your chances of success. Keep this in mind if you ever feel the urge to drive your car through your ex's front door.
Learn more valuable insights into matters of the heart and to find out how to get your ex back in seven days flat. Click the link and watch the part 2 of this video on "After the Breakup"
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