How NOT to Compliment a Woman so You Don't Set Off Her Creep Alarm: The Definitive Algorithm for Men (Not Boys)

How NOT to Compliment a Woman so You Don't Set Off Her Creep Alarm: The Definitive Algorithm for Men (Not Boys)

The longer full title of this article should be "How Not to Compliment a Grown, Educated, Confident Woman Who Doesn't Have Low Self-Esteem Issues You're Romantically Interested In You Have Not Reached First Base With to Ensure that You Don't Ruin Your Chances Forever of Even Getting to First Base".

This is not for Players and Pickup Artists.

1. If you HAVE to compliment her looks, limit it to something general, eg. "You look amazing in that dress" or "You have that Angelina Jolie thing going" or "You look like a Grecian goddess" or "You have almost translucent alabaster skin" or "You have awesome cheekbones".

2. Do NOT give half-compliments that are not compliments but insults, eg. "You must have been a beauty queen or model when you were younger", "You look better today", "You'd look so much prettier if you lost a few pounds but looks don't matter to me. Personality is more important. You have lots of charisma", "I don't mind older women", "My Dad's a cosmetic surgeon so I can honestly say you don't need any corrective procedures at all".

I actually thought on the last compliment and decided it was pass muster... Er, thanks!

Be prepared for those non-compliments to blow up in your face hideously leaving you with lifelong disfigurement. Or just met with resounding silence of the frozen wastes of banishment. No amount of back-peddling will resurrect you, unless you're prepared to wait it out for years for the memory of your monumental idiocy to fade. You've been warned.

3. If you HAVE to compliment a specific body part, it can't be emphasised enough, practice extreme caution, limit it to ABOVE the lips, ie. hair, eyes, smile (NOT lips) , cheekbones, nose.

Everything else is doubtful, highly risky, sexualised and you WILL give off the pervert pickup artist vibe as seeing her only as a sex object.

The lips are an erogenous zone, not to mention the more obvious, ie. breasts, hips, bottom, legs, neck, waist. The very mere mention of them even without adjectives will set off her Creep Alarm.

4. THIS should be one of the Holy Grail messages that, bafflingly, most ordinary men in this day and age still do not get about women: A man does NOT have to sex it up to come across as "sexy" to a red-blooded grownup woman. It's never EVER about body parts.

Get rid of that literal male mindset where you think you have to drop hints about your sexual prowess or experience to make sure she knows you're a grown man.

She will KNOW from the way you talk on any non-sexual subject (even the weather or current affairs), so steer clear of anything remotely sexual, eg. "You seem to have a wild and untamed nature" (woman registers mental scream of abject horror, followed by certain death of man).

Statements like that that may seem mild or innocuous to you give off a putrid odour of sleaze. Good looks, education, career success may momentarily distract and mask your less sterling qualities, but she will quickly smell you out.

5. For compliments on looks, be careful. Too often, you're over-egging the pudding and would come across as desperate/trying too hard/only after one thing. See the summary below for ratios on how often to compliment.

6. Compliments about her personality are the sensible option. (See point number 4 again) With compliments on her personality, you can afford to be more relaxed and generous, every 3rd or 4th time you talk to her, no more. So again, be judicious.

7. Don't cajole, scold, hint at her, criticise even if you would like to think of it as teasing' or a joke' if she doesn't reciprocate with compliments, implying you expect something in return.

A guy once helped me out with a computer issue. All he needed to do was copy a programme for me but he kept saying I should take him out for a meal to repay him. Eeek.

Summary of When and How to Compliment a Woman so You Don't Set off Her Creep Alarm or the Compliment Algorithm:

How Often to Compliment on Personality: Only every 3rd or 4th separate occasion you see her.

Ratio of Compliments on Personality to Compliments on Looks (NOT body parts) 4: 1

Which means compliments on looks (NOT body parts) are to be used only very sparingly. Mathematically, it only works out to every 12th occasion you speak to her.

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