Opening The Vault On Women Seeking Men
The basics of how most men see most women haven't changed so very much over the years
. Men still complain about women talking too much or that they aren't easy to please. The media has not done much to improve the situation; constantly showing women as empowered, but mean. Show after show we have witness the overbearing sassy woman of the household make fun of what is supposed to be the man in her life.
Keeping this and many other stereotypes in mind, is it difficult to understand why some men are terrified of commitment? Perhaps why some men don't appreciate the struggle women have faced over the years and instead see them as bothersome in certain lights?
Women looking to date men, whether just for casual fun or for a long term relationship truly need to stop kowtowing to any century's stereotype of what a woman should be and simply be who they are. It is also vital that as a woman you know what you want out of your relationship, be it short or long term and that you do not have to resort to deception in order to get it.
For a great many years there has been a method used by some women to ensure that she gets the commitment she seeks out of a man. Secured most often by marriage, the woman would act the part of some image she expected a man to want and then turn sour once papers were signed. This haunted representation of a woman ensnaring a man maybe overly dramatized, but is it any wonder why some men fear taking the plunge with this awaiting them?
Another enormous problem of the current dating world is the age-old double standard about sex. Many women today lead very full and quite busy lives and are not looking for commitment. This loaded schedule doesn't mean that a woman doesn't want to enjoy some companionship.
Many men are still experiencing some difficulty with today's more liberated views on women and physical encounters. On one hand, some men find it exciting that women are finally able to announce that they have desires and are more than willing to help them reach the goal. On the other hand, men have been taught to see a woman who has casual relationship in a certain kind of way and it certainly isn't flattering. Over the years many men are coming to see this differently, but certain traditional views can be difficult to face.
Casual Romance:
* Appearance: The way a woman dressed sends out a definite message to most men and for this reason women on the prowl need to be aware of what message they are sending. A woman looking for a more casual physical experience might want to express this in her wardrobe by letting go of insecurities and having fun with fashion. Though it is traditionally not as difficult for women to find men interested in a casual experience dressing up a bit and showing of the human form can help drive some men wild.
*Location: Finding the best places to go on a date that reflect your desire not to enter into anything too serious is a fairly important part of making sure you don't send the wrong message. Restaurants that are too pricey or intimate might give him the impression that you are looking to begin something serious and if this is not your intention you should choose locations that reflect the lighter mood you were hoping for.
*Mood: It can be difficult for a woman to seek out a casual experience, though traditionally it is men who find this an obstacle, women carry a lot of traditional baggage about the subject. Confidence will be your key in ensuring that your experience is a positive one and for this reason you should not shy away from letting him know exactly what you're looking for. Though some men find this straight forward attitude intimidating, many find this to be wildly attractive in a woman when they are seeking the same kind of experience.
Looking for Love:
*Attitude: One of the largest problems most women face in relationships is getting a man to commit. The tactics implemented when attempting to achieve this goal would amaze some of the most secret of government agencies and certainly have taken many a man by surprise. Rather deploying such deplorable tactics, the women of today's era should understand something very important: there are men who want a real relationship.
Finding a man who you believe might be a decent fit and then attempting to bend him to your will is a poor way to choose a partner. A much healthier approach to the situation is to get your goals out on the table and find a person who shares your hopes for the future.
Today's society offers wondrous methods for this very search including online dating services set up not to find dates for the desperate, but to perform the matchmaking that will unite couples who truly belong together. Why waste time on a man who fears spending the rest of his life (or beyond,) with you when you could be with a guy who wants nothing more? Keeping your true intentions out in the open is far more likely to lead to a fulfilling romance than any form of deception.
*Compromise: Over the course of the years many households seem to have taken a turn toward the feminine rule. This is yet another reason why some men so greatly fear commitment.
When entering into a relationship it is important that your partner's desires be included in every aspect of your combined life, from the family car to the decor of the living room. Too often has it become normal to hear about how a wife does not allow her husband to participate in an activity or purchase an item simply because as the matriarch she does not see the reason. This type of impression often leads to some very unhappy unions as the man gets further and further away from the aspects of his life that he once enjoyed.
A woman in a relationship should not take on the role of or be forced to be the boss. This type of structure in a relationship almost always places too much pressure on the woman and forces the man to feel resentful.
The key to avoiding this pitfall begins in the dating process when the couple is still coming together.
Pretending to enjoy a habit that as a woman you intend to see curl up and vanish once committed is no way to enter into a relationship. Remember that every individual has to compromise in order to maintain any type of partnership. Keep this in mind in the beginning of your courtship and you are likely to have a happier ending.
However you choose to pursue your desires in romance always remember that the most effective tactics are more often those that are straight forward. Knowing what your goals are when it comes to meeting men and allowing them the understanding and respect of knowing those intentions will help you to avoid potential disasters in dating.
by: Addison Kross
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