Great Dating Tips for Men: The One and Only Secret to Approaching Women with Confidence!

Author: Ethan Parker

Author: Ethan Parker

Imagine living your dating life by this short but simple credo: "Relax and have fun. The girls love you." How different we guys would act around women if we had that relaxed, carefree attitude that says, "Girls like me. They appreciate who I am."!! Unfortunately, so many of us guys approach women with the complete OPPOSITE mindset. We may have no problem talking women we are MARGINALLY attracted to (or not attracted to at all). But with women we PERCEIVE as "unattainable," we completely blow it! As you know, "unattainable" is synonymous with "ones we really like". And that, my friends, is a VERY erroneous and damaging mindset. Within the past couple of days, the idea has hit me like a lightning bolt that this is often because we tend to suffer from what I call a "Limiting Belief In Reverse" (LBIR). You know what a "limiting belief" is by now. You're too poor, too old, or too SOMETHING to get the women you want. And you also know by now that I believe that it's unreasonable to assume that ALL WOMEN think like you do about your "limiting beliefs". How the LBIR works. Basically, when you see a woman you REALLY like, you assume she HAS NO FAULTS, and that she has UNLIMITED ABILITY to attract ANY guy she wants and GET WHATEVER SHE WANTS from them. In other words, as you believe you are inherently unworthy, you ascribe ULTIMATE, PERFECTED "WORTHINESS" to her. It's the opposite of a "limiting belief". As some sort of way to underscore your own limitations, you ascribe goddess-like perfection to her in order to further insulate yourself from self-blame when you don't approach her, or when you screw up the first date. That has to change. And if you read on and take my advice, if will. See, just like a "limiting belief" robs YOU of potential success, the LBIR has a similar-but reversed-effect. The LBIR robs HER of an equal opportunity to find out what kind of high-level "Big Four" guy YOU are. The one you CAN be if you go around with that "Chicks dig me!" attitude we talked about earlier. By assuming she's "unattainable", you've pre-DISqualified her in a sense. And guess what? When we view the world like this, it's really just because of our own ARROGANCE. That's right...I said it. When you pre-judge women as "unattainable" simply because they are YOUR EXACT "TYPE", you've made an unfair assessment that ignores HER potential input on the matter. You make a decision on her behalf that she won't like you. It's kind of like saying, "My way AND the highway", if you think about it. In the real world, I've noticed that while it's true that none of us can be all things to all MOTOS, the actual pattern in which women DO respond favorably to a particular guy typically has little to do with the "type" of women that guy would guess he'd "look good with", be more attracted to, etc. In fact, and perhaps shockingly, some of the women who aren't our "type" like us A LOT. Others, not so much. And here it is: While it's true not every woman who is your vision of female perfection will like you, it's equally true that SOME WILL. A lot. Perhaps even as much as YOU LIKE THEM. Reversing Your Limited Mindset: You ARE Attractive! But just like you've got to do away with "Limiting Beliefs", you've got to do away with LBIRs also. And the latter is the step that I think MANY, MANY of us overlook, don't we? Why? Because we are always taught to focus on ourselves. OUR inner game. OUR outer game. And when we don't get out of our own heads, we often fail to see the perspective of the exact women we'd like to attract. Even when your game is solid, you've got to be able to see the proverbial "forest for the trees" when it comes to women. You can't make their decisions for them when it comes to attraction...even though that doesn't stop us from trying, apparently. So in two simple words, STOP IT. Being a "Big Four" man, give perfectly reasonable women, albeit amazing ones, the simple chance to make their own decisions about you. Will you get EVERY ONE of them? No. And as you'll find out with time, you don't WANT every attractive women you come across! There are some women who, no matter how sexy and beautiful, really ARE better left untouched! (read: psychos and gold-diggers!) Now, will you get A LOT more attractive women than if you pre-DISqualified ALL of them? Most definitely!About the Author:

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