Best Man Wedding Speech - The Day I Realized There Was More to This Than Bachelor Parties

Best Man Wedding Speech - The Day I Realized There Was More to This Than Bachelor Parties

Then the warm feeling faded to be replaced by a sinking feeling: this was more than just a cool title, what the hell was I actually being asked to do?

Well, I didn't want to let my friend down, and I am one of those people who have to feel that they did their best at what ever they do, so I turned to the web for some clue as to what I had (rashly) set myself up for.

First of all, I discovered that there was more to this than just organizing a stag night. I wasn't about to throw the exotic dancers phone numbers away just yet, but still, it could wait. So what were my many roles to be?

The essence of the Best Man goes back to days of yore, as does much that we consider to be chivalrous. My duties in the Middle Ages, and right through to the industrial revolution, would have been to protect my man's best interests. This could be especially the case at the wedding itself, when unwelcome suitors could try and muscle in on the Bride-to-be. The Best Man would then fight of the intruders while the Groom married. (Incidentally, the tradition of the Groom standing to the right of the Bride is so that his sword arm is free!)

Of course things are not so violent (well, some of our family weddings can descend into fighting, but that's different, and usually only happens at the night reception.) However, most of the roles of the Best Man remain linked to this "I've got your back" attitude. Hence, your main responsibility is looking after the Groom's interests; getting him to the church on time; looking after the ring; witnessing the marriage certificate; getting his suit back to the hire shop after he has jetted off on the honeymoon; sleeping with the Maid of Honor (optional, although highly recommended); and of course orchestrating events at the reception.

Part of the last duty is to deliver one of the key speeches: the usual order is Father of the Bride (welcomes everyone, especially the Groom into his family, his family etc), then the Groom replies (sometimes on behalf of the Bride, although it is the modern trend for the Bride to make her own speech), then it's your turn.

The Best Man speech is usually directed at the Groom, although traditionally you would also be speaking on behalf of the Bride's maids as well. Now, everyone thinks that it is a good idea to embarrass the Groom as much as possible, however, I would not recommend that you say anything that is not already know to the key people in the room, especially those who this information may upset. If you go ahead and reveal that the Groom slept with every girl in college, and the Bride thinks that she was the first, you will be the asshole (even though the Groom will be in trouble as well, no-one is going to thank you for saying it). It is a good idea to run the speech past the Bride and Groom first (or at least the outline), then add a few well considered surprises.

Your speech should be around 5 minutes in length, too long and everyone will fall asleep, too short and you won't say anything, and remember it is the bride and grooms big day, you are there to make sure that this is the case.

Then the fun can begin: your first dance should be with the Maid of Honor. Don't forget though that your duties extend to the very end of the reception and beyond.

My space here was limited and there is a lot more to this whole thing than I could tell you, so do yourself a favor: make an effort, your friend deserves for you to be the best-Best Man that you can be, so do some research, be there for him and work on your speech. I had a great time, and not only that, the experience of actually finding out how to make a good public speech has helped me in my life since the wedding.

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