Your Man Refuses to Commit – Ways to Get Him to Change His Mind
Your Man Refuses to Commit Ways to Get Him to Change His Mind
Your man refuses to commit. It's exasperating for you. You love him and all you truly want is a chance to be in a committed relationship with him. He has an endless list of excuses for why that can't happen though. Regardless of how believable those excuses sound the bottom line is still the same. You want things between the two of you to get more serious and he doesn't. Are you destined to spend the next several years of your life waiting for a man who will never want to commit to you or can you alter your own destiny so your relationship transforms into exactly what you want it to be? If you're determined, focused and have the right insight, you can certainly claim the man as your own and get him to want to be committed just as much as you do.
Before you can take steps towards securing a long term future with him, you have to determine why your man refuses to commit. Typically there are several reasons why men hesitate when it comes to devoting themselves exclusively to one woman. In many cases it's much more about the fear of losing his freedom than it is about not wanting to be with you. Other men worry so much about the impending expenses they'll have to endure once you two move in together, marry and have children, that commitment in itself is a scary proposition. Still other men are worried about whether you are indeed the right one since they have to live through a painful divorce in their childhood.
Take time to think about what may be holding your man back. If you do believe it's because he sees marriage as something of a prison term show him that you have no intention of giving up your life in favor of one where he's your only focus. He needs to see that you don't want to steal his life away from him.
You also must contribute financially to the relationship always. If you've ever talked about how you want to be a stay at home mom who takes care of her kids, he may feel the pressure of that. He may have jumped to the conclusion that you expect him to bring home all the bacon for your future family. Ensure he knows that you love your career and you have no plans to give it up.
If you've tried to calm his fears about marriage and you still feel that he's very resistant to the idea of getting married, you have to take further action. Sometimes it takes a serious jolt to help a man realize what he is at risk of losing. Pull back and start focusing more on you than on him. Let him see that you're a woman in control of her own destiny. Do this by hanging out more with your own friends and making your own decisions when it comes to serious matters. He'll notice the change in you and it will help him see that you may not always be his patient girlfriend forever.