When a Man Pulls Back – Steps to Take When He's Acting Distant
When a Man Pulls Back Steps to Take When He's Acting Distant
When a man pulls back it typically sends the woman who loves him into panic mode. You can sense the moment your guy becomes a bit distant. He no longer seems as attentive to your needs and he's much less available. You try and talk with him about it but he just tells you that everything is fine or there's nothing to worry about. You know differently. How you handle this situation is crucial. If you don't take the right steps you can expect him to pull back so much that the relationship will eventually end.
One of the first things a woman must do when a man pulls back is recognize that something has changed for him. If he was still as in love or felt as close to you, nothing would be different. Try to think back to when you first noticed the change in him. It may have been a subtle change or perhaps it's something much more dramatic. Sadly, even something that we may view as small and insignificant can impact a man's feelings. Things like saying that you love him too soon, calling him too often or mentioning the idea of marriage all qualify. If you can pinpoint what may have caused him to become more distant, you can start to work on remedying it.
One very important step to take when your man pulls back is to not pressure him. Don't push and push him to talk with you about what is wrong. That's not going to be helpful in the least. In fact, it may very well cause more harm than good. Instead, avoid talking about his behavior and the distance that is now there.
Shifting the dynamic of the relationship is often very effective in helping when a man starts to become distant. If you give him a bit more space he'll feel that you understand. For the first week or so let him be the one to initiate contact. If he doesn't, you're going to have to take the lead. Call him up and invite him out for a coffee. When you meet keep the conversation light and on a friendship level. Talk about general things like the weather, work and maybe a movie you're planning on seeing. Your goal is to show him that you can interact with him without pushing him to open up.
Keep the relationship on this new level for a bit. Since he's excepting you to be working hard to pull him closer, he'll appreciate that you're instead giving him some breathing room. As long as you keep the lines of communication open you'll keep your connection with him and eventually he'll open back up.