Timeout - What You Need to Know by:Kimberly Wilson
Are you frustrated because you can't spank your child but timeouts aren't working either
? Time and time again parents abandon the use of timeouts to discipline their children because they think it does not work. Is this you? Timeouts do work over time because they show your child that there are rules of behavior and when they break those rules there are consequences. However, you have to do it the right way by having the right mindset. There are a couple of things parents need to know and remember for timeout success. Before you can give your child a timeout, you need to prepare yourself. What should you do? Print this article and tape it to a wall as a reminder of how you need to be and as an encouragement that you are doing a great job.
1. Children LOVE knowing what the rules of behavior are so they do love timeouts. Really. Don't let their crocodile tears deceive you. They may not like the actual timeout because now they cannot play with their toys for a little bit, but they love knowing what they can and cannot do. They love knowing what their boundaries are and that their parents are going to stop them when they have crossed a line. This makes their world predictable, safe and happy.
2. Understand that when an 18-month old yells, kicks, hits or throws things, they are exploring ways they can express their emotions. Then your little one is mad, it is natural for him to want to hit and kick because he does not have the words to do otherwise. He wants your disciplining behavior to stop, but cannot do a thing. It is your job to remind him of the rules of behavior and give him the chance to calm down and reflect on his behavior.
3. Remember to keep a straight face. This is very important, yet hard for many to do. Parenting can be stressful and emotionally frustrating, but kids feed off of your grimaces and loud outbursts. They LOVE it! They like to know they can get a rise out of you. It is a game to them, and they have all the time and energy to keep the game going. Keep a low and steady voice when you give commands and implement the timeout. Yelling will only tell them that they are winning the game by pushing your buttons.
4. When your child is in a timeout, do not interact with him in any way: no eye contact, no talking, no gesturing. Just sit her down and walk away. If she gets out of the timeout spot you can calmly and without a word take her back then walk away. This is the most important rule, but so hard to remember!
You are fabulous! You love your children and they love you. Timeouts do work. If the kids are driving you bonkers, give yourself a timeout. Being a parent is the toughest job on earth! Everyone knows you are doing your best.
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Kimberly Wilson
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support@DiaperBagSpecials.comI am a former elementary school teacher. I am a stay-at-home mom and businesswoman who enjoys sharing helpful parenting advice while selling diaper bags at the lowest prices.
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