The Number One Rule Of Online Dating
Lately, I have been working with a few guys about optimizing their results in attracting and dating the women that they want from online dating sites
. A lot of the questions I get are about what kinds of things to say when approaching a girl for the first time, how to keep the conversation going, how to get her number or setup a date, how to write an awesome profile, and even how to choose the right pictures. All of these are valid questions, but I have been finding one key issue that many guys are having that completely sabotages any and all prospect of success when dating online (or even in person for that matter). They refuse to follow the number one rule in online and any type of dating. This number one rule is simply this: Have fun!
I know, right? Seems simple. Seems obvious. Seems like common sense. And yet, most people (guys and girls) that I talk to struggle with this more than anything. I hear guys say things like I email girls and never get good responses. I am so stressed out! Or I am frustrated because I am never meeting the type of girls that I want! Or the classic: I want a really nice girl for a serious relationship. Whenever I meet a girl that I really really like, I never see her again. I give up! On the other hand girls arent that much different. Many of them say I am tired of being hurt. Or I can never seem to meet Mr. Right. Or Why are there no nice guys out there? (I will say one big culprit is not putting your best foot forward coupled with insanely unrealistic standards. That is a different topic for a different article though.)
Yet, every person I know that says one of these statements has the same thing in common: They see dating (internet dating especially) as a pain-in-the-ass thing to do in order to meet people. They agonize over all of the unattractive people and the creepers they have to go through to meet the people they want. They think too much about the time its going to take them to send out emails to interesting looking people and all of the effort they are going to have to put in to responding to people. They even pick out all of the flaws of the people that they are talking to sometimes to the point that they lose interest completely. And the crazy part is at the end of the day they get
(Wait for it)
NOTHING!
People sabotage themselves by seeing dating as work or as a negative thing they have to torture themselves with to get what they are looking for. Funny thing is For me and all the people I know that are successful at meeting and dating attractive people, we always have a blast doing it! Thats rightWe have fun! Many self-help gurus say that you should focus on enjoying the process instead of getting results. I have to agree completely with that frame of mind.
When I send tons of emails out to beautiful girls all I am thinking about is how much fun I am going to have talking to and meeting so many attractive women. I think of how much fun I am going to have exercising my conversational jujitsu and wit. I get excited to read challenging responses. I am happy to talk to so many amazingly funny and intelligent girls. To summarize, I have a blast! And that gets me great results to boot! Its like icing on the cake.
In conclusion, if you want to have an awesome dating life, then focus on creating a mutually fun experience for yourself and the people you date. Be positive. Focus on all the fun you will have talking to and meeting so many cool and interesting people (even if you have to meet a few unattractive people here and there in the process). Dating should be fun. Save the stress and negativity for your asshole boss at work.
Hope this helps.
The Web Womanizer
by: The Web Womanizer
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