4) Learn to fight for resolution rather than victory
. How many times have the two of you gotten into a fight only to end up forgetting what the fight was really over in the beginning? It happens all the time in marriages. The fight goes from being about a sticky problem point in the marriage and turns into an all out war where your only concern (by both parties) is victory at all costs and you're taking no prisoners. These kinds of fights destroy marriages while fights that resolve the conflict and result in changed behavior save marriages. Learn to fight for a different kind of victory saving your marriage - instead.