Online Dating: A Quick Guide For The Newbie Guy
Online dating is becoming more and more popular each year
. Thousands and thousands of marriage agencies and dating web sites are offering their services, with millions of beautiful faces from 18 to 80 years old looking at you from the pages of their online catalogues.
It all looks so tempting that it is almost impossible to resist. You start with your first profile, get your first ten letters, you go to your first date - and then five years later you find yourself on 10 different websites chatting to dozen girls a day, looking for new faces each time. And? You're still single.
Some people are get addict. Some become real professionals, learning from their mistakes until they master the art of online seduction. If you are a newbie in the world of online dating, you have to be really careful if you do not want to end up a month later, disappointed and broken-hearted.
Use the pooled experience: check some forums related to the subject and see what other people say. Spend one evening reading and you?ll find out a lot of interesting things. You might even meet new friends out there, or on the contrary, see the examples of people you would never want to be - an online dating addict. In other words, doing a little research is always useful.
If this is your research, do not fret. We have chosen the most important things you need to bear in your mind when you start online love quest.
Read them before you actually fall in love with someone, and do not hesitate to reread again after a while. People forget, you know.
Five things to remember about online dating
Real girls never look like their photos.
Sad but true. Each amazing photo you see is a result of hours of work, make-up, a hairdresser, a talented photographer and increasingly even some photoshop work. The final picture looks great, like the girl you have been looking for all your life, but it has nothing to do with a real living person. Some girls even use the photos which are five or more years old, just to attract your attention. So do not make up your mind based on a picture!
Half of the girls on dating sites do not really exist.
It is another sad thing to learn. Dating and marriage agencies are a really good business nowadays, and they buy and sell their databases to one another. The girl you are talking to might have left the agency five years ago, but her profile was not deleted and was sold to another agency together with the rest. If she replies then you may think that you are talking to a young and nave beauty, but the real girl is already old, fat and married with two kids, and she does not even know that you exist. An agency employee is talking to you on her behalf, playing with your feelings and giving you a false hope.
If your girl does not speak English, then it is the translator you are talking to.
If you met your girl through one of the many foreign-based marriage agencies and she does not speak English, then it is a translator you are talking to. Are you sure that their translator is actually translating your words, and not just making up an appropriate reply? Remember, translators working for marriage agencies are usually deeply involved in the business, so they are almost never objective. If you want to be sure that you are not being scammed, hire an independent translator. If you are paying them for the truth, you'll get the truth. If they work for the agency, they will say what the agency wants them to say.
There is such a type as "The Professional Dater"
Your girl joined the agency more two years ago, she looks like a supermodel, she is lovely and kind and she is still lonely? Do you not think that something is wrong here? There is a good chance you are dealing with a professional dater. That is the type of girl who are not really interested in meeting anyone, some of them have boyfriends or even husbands. What they are looking for are presents, dates in expensive restaurants and spending vacations abroad. As soon as she gets enough of it she will disappear, leaving you confused and maybe broken-hearted.
Online girls are as picky as real ones.
Are you just about to fall in love with a twenty-year-old blond beauty you have met online, and are frantically evaluating your chances? Then go to the mirror and be honest with yourself. Imagine you met this girl in real life. Would she be interested in you? Why? Because Ukrainian men are all lazy and are hard-drinkers, and I live in the USA and have a house? That is not an honest answer. Those young beauties in the marriage agency catalogue are as picky as the ones you see in real life. And if you think that it is too good to be true then it almost certainly is not true. Do not let them fool you. More importantly, do not fool yourself.
Now you may ask - is it worth trying after all?
Of course, it is impossible to give you a simple answer to this question. Apparently you have to find your own answer. You might end up disappointed after months of trying, but you might meet the girl of your dreams. As Russians say: the one who does not take a risk, does not drink champagne in the end. It is obvious that in the modern world you normally spend much more time in front of your computer than among other human beings. It would be silly not to use all opportunities the Internet is offering you.
We all know couples who met on the Internet one way or another. Some of them are married and already have kids who are meeting friends on the internet. Some of them are even happy! Is that not inspiring enough?
So do not give up. Use your common sense, do not lie to yourself, and do not rely on a miracle. Somewhere on the other side of the screen your true love may be asking herself the same questions.
by: Maria Fuchs-Alcox
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