My Man Is Acting Very Distant! 7 Things You Must Put Into Action When Your Man Acts Distant
My Man Is Acting Very Distant! 7 Things You Must Put Into Action When Your Man Acts Distant
If you notice that of late your man has been distancing himself then don't panic as that will only exacerbate the situation. Instead take a step back and think with a cool head. All is not lost and you can still get him back if you know the real reasons. Here is what you should try.
Don't kick yourself
Your first reaction will be to blame yourself; however, you fail to realize that there could be hundred other reasons for him to do so. Go over the events of the past few weeks carefully and try and zero in on the exact cause. Only when you are sure of the reason will you be able to attempt winning him back.
Respect his desire
No matter what the reason is, respect his decision to stay away. At least he didn't create a scene and leave. Give him time to collect himself. Maybe he is under severe stress or feeling pressured.
Carry on living
His going away from you though a significant development in your life it is not the end of the world for you. Carry on with your life as if nothing big has happened and focus on your priorities. If it was nothing significant he will come back without a murmur.
Speak to him
Ask your man for a meeting and discuss the issue with him. If he comes clean and tells you that he has outgrown the relationship, wish him well and move on. Don't ask for any further explanations.
Changes he wants
If during your meeting he comes up with a list of grievances, take them seriously. Tell him that you appreciate his frankness and will attempt to make the changes he wants. You too on your part should spell out the things that you want differently. This will cool him down and he will be more open to giving the relationship one more chance.
Counseling
If you think that you on your own or with his help can't make the relationship work then seek the help of counselors. They will guide you in a step by step manner. The other advantage is they will give you unbiased advice which should be acceptable to both of you.
Accept it as a part of life
If things still do not improve then it is better that you call off the relationship before it causes permanent damage to you and him. This way you can part as good friends and retain a healthy respect for each other.