Whilst it's perfectly reasonable to reflect on the events leading up to the break up of the relationship it's certainly not healthy to go over and over the minutiae of the situation. Why wasn't I nicer? Why was he so selfish? Why wasn't I more understanding? The facts are nothing can be changed and you can only move on from the situation.
2 Allow Yourself and Your Partner Space
It can be tempting to call or text your ex, after all, you two were once very intimate. Not knowing what your ex is up to can be quite disconcerting when you are used to knowing his everymovement. Is he with another girl? Is he sobbing into is pillow or is he blithely having a pint with his mates talking about football? It can feel frustrating not having any idea but what you have to remember first and foremost is that it is no longer your concern and principally you need to focus on you!
3 Lean On Your Buddies
Get your friends together and have a good old whine and moan. Let out all his classified secrets! Does he have smelly feet? Does he wear the same underwear 3 days on the trot? Did he always forget your birthday?But rememberthere is a line, don't let out anything too scandalous or personal,otherwise you could be ripe for a whole new set of problems to come winging your way.
4. Don't Do Anything Drastic
It's only natural to want a drastic change and the easiest way is to go for the chop. Hair represents a woman's sexuality and femininity and after a break up it may feel natural to express your self through your hair. DON'T! Unlike your present heartache a hair cut is oh so tragically permanent. Whilst we can all see the allure of dramatically gliding into a salon with shoulder length unremarkable hair and leaving with a gorgeous pixie cut like Miss Paltrow in Sliding Doors. Frankly you are likely to be regretting your decision before your precious hair had even been swept of the floor. Instead go for a change with a hair extension style thats guaranteed to make you feel like a million dollars.
Remember, although break ups are hard, inevitably your heartbreak will ease with time. Stay positive and focused and concentrate on the positive elements of your life. As a good friend once said to me "The creases always fall out in time!"