Coping Up After Cheating - Picking Up What's Left Of Your Marriage After An Affair
There is nothing more devastating than being cheated on by someone whom you trusted the most
, your spouse. And how do you think you can continue living your life normally? Questions are now boggling your mind whether you want to move on without your partner or just pick up the pieces of what's left of your marriage.
You cope with a cheating spouse just as you cope with anything bad that happens in your life. You force yourself to keep putting one foot in front of the other and moving forward until you realize that you no longer need to force yourself and are able to walk on your own. That's the long road to healing at least but it can be effective.
Stop Worrying About what Could Have Been
Don't worry yourself with what could have been. Preventing is from happening actually does not give his security. His actions were not your fault and he should take all responsibility for it. Blaming someone will actually not help ease the pain out and will only worsen the situation.
The bottom line is that hindsight almost always reveals things that might have, would have, or could have been done differently along the way. You'll never know and kicking yourself while you're down simply isn't helpful to your cause. So stop!
Changing your future with someone who has aggravated you can be difficult. Forgiving would be a good start, forgetting can come on the process of coping up. It is going to be up to you how to build the future, but first don't imprison yourself from the past. Move on and figure out how to make everything happen as planned.
Change Your Stars
This would be a great time to plan your future with your spouse. The difficult times of your relationship will be forgotten with the help of new and happy memories. There will be a need to start from scratch so you can leave old baggage behind.
The best way there is to start building a new future with your husband and treat the ugly past as a challenge to your relationship. The situation that you both had before will toughen the bond with your partner, and creating new and happy memories will surely give your spouse second thoughts on having an affair again.
Your actions will only make the future. Decide whether you still want to continue living with your spouse, but to end it would actually mean losing against the challenges of life in your relationship. May this part of your married life serve as a learning period for a better future.