Can Talking Things Through Get Your Girl To Come Back To You?
While it is true that talking is an important part of getting your girl back it is
important that you understand that what you talk about can either kill your chances of getting her back or lead to your success. What you talk about and how you say things can either lead her back into your arms or drive her away forever. The topics that you talk about in these beginning stages of getting her back will either turn her off completely to the idea of getting back together or move her so profoundly that she will find the thought of being without you for another day irresistible.
While many so called experts might tell you that you need to just sit down with her and talk about the problems in your relationship and come up with a solution for the two of you to move on with your relationship. Personally, I think this is just pie in the sky thinking thought up by someone who has never been through a breakup. What if your girl isnt talking to you at all? What if she feels that the resolution to your relationship problems is to go out there and find another guy that is better suited to her without any relationship issues?
Well, if you agree that what the two of you had was special and you really do want to get her back you should do everything that you can to avoid focusing on the problems and this pushing her into the arms of another guy. Does this make sense to you? Focusing on the problems is never going to help your case and asking her for a pow-wow so you can talk about the breakup is probably going to be met with about as much enthusiasm as a scheduled visit to the dentist or gynecologist. In her mind she will look upon such a meeting as giving you closure and nothing more. She will take the opportunity to try to make YOU see that it really is over. She will try to make you see the light and hope that you will just move on.
So, if you really do want to get back together you should avoid wanting to talk about the problems in your relationship and your chances of getting back together at all costs. If you have already done this though its OK. There are ways to overcome this and still get your girl back. It is a common mistake and something that most guys try to do so dont worry about it. They think that if they can just get their girl to logically see that you agree with them and are willing to change the things that they saw as a problem in your relationship then there shouldnt be any more issues and the two of you can happily ride off into the sunset.
But this is the problem women dont think logically. Women, your girl included, make decisions based upon their heart and how they feel. How do you think it makes her feel to talk about problems? She will find it overwhelming and she just might feel that it is confirms that she made the right decision to break up with you. And if all of this is true then you need to know how to make her want you emotionally so she will overlook the problems and just want to be with you.
The key to opening the lines of communication and actually getting her back is in moving her emotionally beyond what she can handle. If you are able to move her emotionally and make her feel love, passion, desire, respect, admiration, longing, wanting and all those other happy, warm and fuzzy feeling she the tide will turn. The more powerful the emotions the more she will desire you and her heart will overcome her mind. Her heart will tell her that she doesnt care about the past or your shortcomings. Her heart will tell her that she cant be without you and she wont care what anyone thinks. She will love you again and do anything to be with you.
Keep in mind that were not talking about being a wussie and being overly nice to her by buying her gifts or flowers. Were not talking about writing her love letters or telling her that you love her or that youll wait forever for her or that she is the only one for you. Those things are great when youre actually in a relationship with her but when youre broken up they will only make you look weak and needy kind of pathetic, actually. After all, what kind of a guy offers up his heart to someone that rejects him and breaks up with him? So have some respect for yourself and keep those thoughts and feelings to yourself until you do get her back, OK?
Think of it this way how many times have you seen a girl go for the bad boy? How many women chase after guys that are players or dirtbags with little or no redeeming value? How many beautiful women do you see with guys that you know are just going to use them and dump them when theyre done with them? Women go for these guys because they know how to move a woman emotionally. They know the psychological hot buttons to push to get the reaction that they desire out of them. They know how to make them feel warm and fuzzy all over. Are you ready to move your girl emotionally and get her back before some other guy takes advantage her her fragile emotional state? You need to be the one that takes advantage of this opportunity before its too late.
by: Cory Jean
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