Better Ways to Resolve Conflicts in Your Marriage After Cheating
Conflict resolution may have never been the strong suit of either party in your marriage
. Now that cheating has become a problem in the marriage, it is going to need to become a strong suit for one or both of you. Here are a few ways to resolve conflicts in your marriage after cheating that are productive and can actually leave you both feeling better after the conflicts ends instead of worse.
How many times has something like this happened in your house?
He says: "What's up with the soup? It tastes a little off tonight?"
She responds: "What do you mean you hate my cooking? You've never had a problem with it in the past! Did she cook better for you? Is that what you're saying? That she's a better cook?"
And bam-mo! Suddenly World War 7 has broken out in the middle of your dining room and it doesn't look like anyone is going to be taking prisoners.
It's probably a familiar story.
There has to be a better way, right?
There is!
1) Learn to let some things go. It's not only about being touchy in arguments but also in bringing up things from the past. If you want arguments and disagreements to be productive you're going to have to limit them to the topic at hand and not bring up old unresolved issues every time an argument happens. If they are a problem then you need to resolve those issues sometime when you're not having a disagreement over something unrelated.
2) Stop escalating the fight. How many wars could have been won without nearly as much bloodshed and needless loss of life had cooler heads prevailed and no escalations occurred from the very beginning? Stop taking it to the next level or making the argument about more than it is really about.
3) Leave the past in the past. Arguments can't be productive for either of you if you are too busy digging up bones to face the problems you're having in the here and now. Stop living in the past and look toward the future even with your arguments.
4) Learn to lose so you both can win. Stop fighting to win the fight and start fighting to save your marriage. That is very well what this could come down to. It's not nearly as important to win the fight if you lose the love of your life as a result.
Better Ways to Resolve Conflicts in Your Marriage After Cheating