3) Am I cheating on my wife if I've been thinking about cheating but haven't actually crossed the line? This is a little bit in the gray area
. While it's good you haven't acted on those thoughts, the fact that you're having them indicates a problem in your marriage. A good general rule of thumb is this: would your wife consider it cheating if she knew what you were thinking? Are you flirting a little too heavily? Have you only not crossed the line because the opportunity hasn't presented itself? Would you cross the line if you thought you could get away with it (don't feel too bad if you do about 95% of men and 65% of women admitted they would in a recent survey)?