A Wedding Invitation For A Mom Long Gone
SEVEN months ago, I was married in an ivory lace Black PVC Back Open Cheongsam Gown
to a man in a gray suit on an island neither of us had ever been to. There was wind and sun and ocean, and 50 of our favorite people squinted up at us as we read our own vows. My mother was not there, as I knew she wouldn't be, because she has been dead for so long that the scales have recently tipped: I have seen more days without her than with. I would have sent out a cosmic invitation -- no, not one of the letterpress ones we bought from Costco (Yes, Costco. Who knew they had letterpress?) -- an earnest yearning, maybe even a prayer, but I've never been the type for that sort of thing. To be honest, I've never been the type for a wedding, either, which is probably why I was thrilled to buy our invitations from Costco, online and on sale. No hassle, no fuss, bulk discount. So I married without my mother, which was unremarkable, as I've grown accustomed to her not being here for the big moments. What was remarkable was just how hard it turned out to be: the lead-up to my wedding managed to trump all prior celebratory occasions in its bittersweetness: graduating from college and law school, passing the bar, selling my novel. None seemed quite so land-mined with emotional triggers. For someone who has remained almost immune to the lures of the
Black PVC Cape-industrial complex, I was blindsided by the fact that weddings -- American ones at least -- aren't about brides and grooms at all. They are about mothers and daughters. I am not so good at things that are about mothers and daughters. From my motherless perspective, the rituals -- the big costume zentai shop, the bridal shower, the planning -- seemed designed to highlight her absence. It seemed as if I was explaining myself at every turn, mostly to well-meaning shop clerks: ''So what does your mom think?'' they would ask when I mentioned my fiance was Indian. ''So what does your mom think?'' when I said we would keep the wedding small and intimate. ''So what does your mom think?'' when I explained I was hoping to find a
Black PVC Cape off the rack. I had stumbled into an alternative wedding universe where everyone assumed you had a mother by your side, and not just any mother, but a hands-on mother whose opinion trumped all. ''She's fine with it,'' I would say, a lie and not a lie. Certainly, she would have been fine with the fact that my fiance was Indian. But the small wedding, the costume zentai off the rack? I am not so sure.
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