subject: Do I Have To Forgive My Wife For Cheating? [print this page] The feeling might have been unspeakably heartbreaking. It might have never even crossed your mind, but here comes the truth whacking you hard. Forgiving your cheating wife didn't even seem to make sense this time. Patching up the busted marriage is something that you want to do alone this time and the idea of forgiving her is absolutely not in your plans. However, fixing the marriage wounded by infidelity can never be started unless unadulterated forgiveness has been released.
Understanding the Distinction
Now, forgiving your wife doesn't mean you believe what she did was OK. You're not excusing her for cheating. You're not "letting her off" for cheating on you. That isn't what forgiveness is.
Saving the marriage has always something to do with forgiveness. The other one will not exist without the other. But forgiveness here doesn't necessarily mean back with your wife, it could also mean choosing to let and moving on. What matter's is that you have released your anger and pain knowing you love her and yourself that much to direct the agony to yourself doubly.
But, if you want to save your marriage and work things out between the two of you, you're going to have to forgive your wife for cheating.
What does 'Forgiving her Cheating' means?
Once you've made the decision to save your marriage and forgive your wife you might find you need a little help with the second half of that equation. It's one thing to decide to forgive her for cheating on you. It's another thing entirely to actually do it.
It is basically "say what you mean and mean what you say." Words can mean a thousand other words unless you prove it with your actions.
If you are serious on getting the marriage working again, you must know for a fact that you must be serious in working things out with her. It's not only the relationship that you want to fix and forgive, but also yourself. Trust issues will destroy the two of you again and again if not resolve accurately.
Doing "Forgiveness"
This is probably the hardest thing for most people in your position. You know how to do a lot of things but there aren't many living examples of forgiveness to follow. Begin by understanding that holding on to the anger and pain really only hurts you in the end. You must let it go in order to heal. Let go one thought at a time until there's no anger or resentment left to hang on to.
Forgiveness is more about you than most people realize. It's about letting go of the painful, hurtful, and anger causing thoughts that hold you back and prevent you from living your best life. Give this gift to yourself by forgiving her and you'll be able to move on with or without her better and faster than you would have ever believed possible.
by: T Dub Jackson.
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