subject: Online Dating - Getting Out of the Inbox [print this page] People that know me know that I datePeople that know me know that I date. They also know that a lot of these dates come from the interwebs. You see, I'm a member of a few different dating sites. They're all free and what not and that's how I choose to roll. It's not that I'm cheap, but my best dates have all come from free dating sites.
I've had a lot of experience in online dating. It all started with Craigslist. Those were the dark days. You could never be sure what you were going to get; you were, literally, Forrest Gump in the online world of dating picking out random chocolates out of the candy box from hell to find a date.
Fortunately the times and technology have greatly improved the online dating world; it also doesn't hurt that society has caught up and caught onto this phenomenon as well. What was once a curiosity and source of fun-making is now widely used by everyone, from your best friend to your granny's best friend. Everybody's doing it. So what.
I do have some guidelines for myself, where it concerns meeting a girl online. I'll share them with you. You can use what works and cross out what doesn't, of course, to suit your needs.
Here are some things that I've observed:
Women who post bikini pics of themselves, seldom have anything really interesting to talk about
No one wants to wait a month before they meet someone they me3t online for the first time.
Online dating is best when it's kept short and sweet. Get to the point!
A "grocery list" to find your perfect mate is lame.
Stalking is a bit more creepy online, it turns out.
Here are some of my own guidelines for online dating. Keep in mind these are just my own opinion.
Don't send a 'form' message. Don't send a pre-written message to 100 different users thinking "Oh, well at least one of those people will call me or write me back." Women can see through this sort of b.s. Whoever you want to send a message to, take time to make it unique. Look at the person's profile. Take a look at their interests, comment on them and ask questions. It's a great way to start off a message. Just be unique every time.
Try to keep the emails fresh and funny, but also keep it quick. Either the second or third message, if not sooner, provide your number and ask for your interest's number as well. I wouldn't start off with a full on message that includes your life story.
Arrange a phone call, if possible. It's hard to really flesh out someone unless you meet them face to face right off the bat. The next step; and certainly next best thing, is to have a conversation with them on the phone. This will tell you, to some degree, how your personalities mesh.
The names in this article have been changed to protect the vein and clueless.
Here are some messages I've sent out to girls that have resulted in dates:
"Did you know that Chuck Norris was what Willis was talkin' about?"
Crazy, huh?
So I read your profile and I liked what I read. You seem really cool, the kind of girl I'd like to get to know better. And, it doesn't hurt that you're a lot prettier than I am.
Anyway, if you are interested shoot me a message and say 'hi' yourself. If not I'm going to start throwing children into the sun, just like Chuck Norris.
Someguy
The above message was one that I wrote to a girl online. The message here isn't too specific, it's short and to the point with some Chuck Norris humor injected. But, you see, that's the important piece. This person's profile had a few Chuck Norris quotes written within it. By including a couple of Chuck Norris quotes in my message, I've shown this person the following:
She knows I read her profile and took time to write an original message
She knows that we share a similar sense of humor, if not a serious bromance for Chuck.
Here's a second message I wrote to someone:
Carlie Simon Jr.
You wound me; telling me you don't know your Darm Kahplagh from your Deet Krum Sothpragma! For shame, Carlie, for shame.
I'm glad that we agree the new trilogy sucks as much, if not more than, a very ugly and desperate male prostitute selling it off at leisure world.
Seriously though, I would like to talk to you more. You think exchanging IMs or *gasp* numbers would be okay with you? I understand if not, it's cool. I get it. I just got out of prison and you're probably not big on dangerous geeky types.
That said here's my stuff:
aim: yannibmba
yahoo: yannibmbr1
msn: yannibmbr
And you don't gotta call or txt it, but my phone: 212.xxx-xxxx
Have a good'un.
Some Guy
Now I'm sure this message would have you think that there's no way I could get a reply... Yet I did. Obviously this girl is a Sci-fi junkie, which is good because I am, too. But more importantly, being the second message, I chose to give her my number and IM contacts. I did this because I didn't want to repeatedly message back and forth. I wanted to move things beyond the Inbox and onto IMs and phone calls. Yes, I consider IMs another step beyond messaging through a dating site. You get a better sense of a person based on how they respond to what you write on-the-fly. I also offered up my phone number and I kept it low pressure. This person ended up texting me and we texted back and forth a few times before I finally called, which is what I wanted all along.
With regard to online dating, this is the ideal flow I like to follow.
Avoid long, drawn out, back and forth messaging if possible. Keep it to about two or three messages before asking for a number.
Have a phone conversation with the person, or at the very least an IM convo.
Arrange a simple first date; coffee or a drink.
If all goes well then go on another date.
This flow is simple and helps ensure that neither of you are wasting the other person's time. That's the convenience of online dating; meeting people you might not ordinarily have the opportunity to meet and then quickly find out if there's a spark. If not just move on to the next. Short and sweet, just like me mum. There's always exceptions to these rules
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Online Dating - Getting Out of the Inbox
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