subject: Recovery From Divorce For Men [print this page] Recovery from divorce for men can be long and painful. It will seem as if the metaphorical rug has just been pulled off from under your feet leaving you in a spinning wave of emotional pain and suffering without any or little support to hold on to. The ugly part about this is the fact that without proper help, it can leave you with a bitter and resentful view of life, marriage and relationships in general ruining any chances for happiness in the future.
Resentment and bitterness does nothing but prolongs your agony and ties your entire worldview to that one traumatic moment in your life and unless you are able to let go of these negative emotions, you will never be truly free. This article will try to help you address these issues and untangle yourself from these poisonous emotions.
Admit Your Resentment
If you are unable to accept the fact that you are resentful then you will never be able to move from the situation that you are in right. Because how will you ever truly be able to solve a problem unless you admit that there is something there that needs solving. If you feel that your bitterness and resentment is justified then chances are, you will never get past this problem. So admit that you do have a problem and that this problem must be solved.
Determine Your Triggers
Your negative emotions will often have triggers in the form of a person, a place, an event, or even an object. Knowing specifically what these are will help you avoid them for the time being until such time that you are mentally and emotionally strong enough to face and resolve them.
Write
One good way to come into terms with your resentment and bitterness would be to put it down in writing. This can be written to no one in particular, or if you would like, it can also be addressed to your ex wife. Putting all of your disappointments, frustrations and bitterness on paper will give you a therapeutic release of all the pain that you are carrying. Once you"re done, reread what you have written and allow your anger to flow into the page and then tear or burn it up. This will serve as a symbolic gesture of you letting go of that resentment that you feel.
Believing in Yourself
One issue that often get in the way of recovery is the lack of belief. Hating on someone else because of your failure to deal with the problem will always be easier as you can always pin the blame on others for holding you back rather than admit any fear or insecurity on your own. You will need to believe that you can and will do it, this will be the only way that you will be able to transcend bitter resentment in your life.
by: Kyle Morrison
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