subject: Coping With A Break Up - 9 Guides Towards Successful Coping [print this page] When you are coping with a break up, it is normal that you let all of your negative feelings and emotions out. You may want it expressed on a paper writing anything and everything about your feelings. You can write blogs.Or you can scream at the top of your lungs with so much anger and hatred in your heart. While others are good at shouting and screaming, some would just want to be silent and would rather go to an isolated place and shout.
A relationship that starts to be very romantic and passionate can also end with extreme pain in your heart. The pain is mostly associated with things you never expected to happen but it came suddenly like a thief in the night. We feel so down and lonely right after the break up, and this is a normal response from a person whose heart is broken. You have your own different responses on how to deal with it. Most often, your heart needs time before it will completely heal.For sure, there comes a point in your life that you will feel depressed and you are still longing to him. You try to remember all the good memories you and him shared by browsing all the things that remind you of him.You cry for yourself and for him. You want to forget everything, most especially HIM, but it seems hard. When you are officially separated, it is good that your emotions should also be detached. When emotions are kept and left unchecked, more negative emotions will invade your heart such as hatred, jealousy, anger, revenge depression, loneliness, hopelessness and suicidal attempt.
True enough, coping with a break up is one painful and undesirable circumstance that can happen in a person's life. Life will never be the same; your eating and sleeping pattern will really change.You tend to become so drowned with your feelings and you think so irrational anymore. But no matter how hard it is, dealing with the problem responsibly and rationally is one best way to get out of such horrible emotions. So here are the different advices that can really be of help to have a happy coping:
Accept the break-up. The best way to do when break up happens is to remove all the negative feelings behind you and start dealing and coping with the hurt.Do not expect impossibility.It will be harder for you when you think that way. Learn to accept that the person once love is not with you anymore and the relationship just ended.
Be forgiving.I know this is not easy especially when you really are hurt. But believe me, in forgiving; your heart and mind will be refreshed and it will help you let go of the hurt and hatred. It can keep you positive despite the pain and make you feel believe that great things are waiting for you
Self-respect. It is not good to blame yourself with what happened in the relationship. So never ever prevent yourself in doing things that you enjoy. Take an importance of rest and eat and go out some time with friends.And one thing you must not do is to attempt suicide. Life is not the end even after break up, time will come that you will see someone better and who will love you just the way you are.Give your self a chance to love and be loved again.
Have a great time with your family. Your family is the best reason for living; so even if you broke up with your boyfriend, your family will just be there for you. This is actually the perfect time to realize that love of family is much greater than the love of your ex.
Be thankful for all the Blessings. No matte how you mourn for the loss of your boyfriend brought about by break up, you still have reasons to feel thankful and blessed because your family and friends are there to love and support you.
Allow time for yourself to heal. Do not get impulsive in trying new relationship. Have some time to be with yourself, to reflect on things you need to give some decision and learn to move on as you will be meeting new faces and people, and may be one of them will be the next person to love you completely.
Learn to divert your attention. This is done through finding a new hobby to forget him.
Keep the positivity. Even if the painful feelings are invading your system, don't give up, let it go and be able to keep the faith that life is still beautiful for you.
You need to move on. Moving on means you keep going with the flow, allow yourself to plan for your new life and do all the things that you always like and love. Share those plans with your families and friends that you trust and love big time. The more you share your feelings, the faster the healing.
Truly, love is always the ultimate and powerful emotion ever. We have been so bombarded with stories about love that it can make all things possible because of it. You got hurt from the break up because you loved; you are blinded because of love. You forgive and forget because of love. You respect yourself because of love, and you learn coping with a break up because you want to be loved again. Love can give us beautiful and ugly emotions in our lives. But, love is not good at all when it allows you to be overly blinded on things that you need to know. Never allow love to hinder you in moving on.
