subject: Wedding Invitations Should Not Include Admission Fee [print this page] My fiance and I are both well-established young adults who have no need for additional household items. We are paying for the cheap wedding dresses ourselves because none of our parents are able to afford to help us with the cost. We are wondering what is the easiest and most polite way of asking for a monetary donation to offset the cost of the wedding because we are paying for it ourselves.
Gentle reader: No, you are not paying for it yourselves, no matter how often you proclaim that. You are scheming to ask your guests to pay for it. Miss Manners realizes that it will come as a shock to many bridal couples to hear that their cheap bridesmaid dresses are not shows that carry admission fees. However, there is no remotely polite way to ask guests to pay for the hospitality you pretend to offer them.
Dear Miss Manners: My daughter is having a party tomorrow to celebrate her fifth birthday. I found out this morning that one of her friends has gotten her a present she already has.
I have instructed her, and had her practice, what to do if she opens a present she already has or does not particularly like at her party to say "thank you" and move on to the next one. However, I was hoping this was something she wouldn't actually have to deal with.
Since I know ahead of time, should I let the parent know, or let it go and deal with it after the party? I don't want the parent to feel I am asking her to do more work by returning the present and getting another one.
Gentle reader: Then why would you be less gracious than you have advised your daughter to be? Why would the friend's parent think that you told her unless you expected her to run out and get another present in time?
Of course that would be the only way your daughter would be, as you say, spared. That would be discomforting and inconveniencing a guest in order to spare your daughter the necessity of practicing good hostess manners.
by: jos fqe
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