subject: Are Christian Men To Soft? [print this page] I have a different theory that Im confident will not be popular with men, however; I think if there was a private focus group with Christian women and they were asked to be honest, my hypothesis would prove correct. A lot of men trying to live the Christian Lifestyle are TO SOFT. Yes I said it, too soft, too timid, and struggle in their identity and behavior. And look Im not saying this as though Im immune from the experience. When I first made the transition from being a fornicating fool to living a Christian Lifestyle it was very difficult figuring out how to reprogram myself in a way that didnt go from one extreme to the other.
What would make a difference with a lot of men would be if we were to truly study Christ and fill in some of the missing blanks. For instance, Christ was bold, humorous, and commanding, while being humble and holy. That is the balance that we as Christian men have to have. Women, Christian or not have a few characteristics if men they are looking for that stay consistent. Women want men that are leaders, that can make them laugh, that can be compassionate and stern at the same time. The Christian Walk shouldnt make you lose or pull back on any of these characteristics. What ultimately ought to change when becoming a Christian male is the goal of your interaction with women and an increase in respect level.
Being a fornicating fool my objectives were clear, to get a woman to engage in physical activity with me. I would say what I needed to say, do what I needed to do, with that very singular focus in mind. I did it very well. Starting the Christian Walk, the objectives changed to being respectful of every woman, having interactions that are friendship based, and being able to discriminate and find that one woman that you can potentially spend the rest of your life with. Doing this without getting physical; I think too many Christian men think to themselves since it is a sin to get physical then I have to be completely stand offish. That what women are looking for men who are timid, that is not the case. Youll find yourself being the friend, the nice guy that gets purely the church hug and watches as the woman hes attracted to ends up with the next guy.
Instead, I encourage men to work on being more humorous, to even being slightly sarcastic, to shift focus from taking a woman out being a restaurant to instead making it about having them accompany you to the grocery store, or meeting them at star bucks. The most important thing with women is having good conversation; a woman is constantly testing and filtering in a way that we dont even comprehend. It is much easier to break through those barriers and hurdles if you are in a conversational setting versus the traditional date setting.
Finally guys, if you show signs of your interest, but do not come across as pressed. This sends wonderful vibes to women; it communicates confidence in more of a way than anything else you would do.
by: Christian Men US
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