subject: Critical Parenting Skills Every Parent Should Have [print this page] Parenting is a skill just like anything elseParenting is a skill just like anything else. It must be learned. Most parents learn by default...the faults of their own parents. Parents today try to avoid making the same mistakes as their parents made. Unfortunately, trying to do the opposite of what your parents did when they raised you is not necessarily the best approach to developing parenting skills.
Parenting Skills Checklist: First of all keep in mind that if what you've been doing to provide guidance and discipline to your child hasn't been working it is not the child's fault. As a parent it is up to you to figure out the most effective ways to get your child's attention, respect and cooperation.
The common sense approach to good parenting skills is to keep what has been working for you and discard what hasn't been working.
Before taking a course to build new parenting skills I recommend taking a parenting styles quiz. This self-assessment of the way that you parent your children will identify where your currently at.
Before you know how to improve your parenting skills you must first be aware of your present parenting style. You can take a free parenting styles quiz at www.parentalquiz.com . The results are not saved or recorded but are sent to you confidentially by email.
How to Manage Your Child's Behavior Children are no different than you or I (at least that's true for myself), they simply haven't learned socialization skills like the basics of courtesy as in how to be polite. They may not have learned how to cope with disappointment or how to cope with frustrations.
Some children fail to learn basic social skills like how to play together or how to share with others. Parents need to teach these skills until they are second nature for the child. No one, not teachers, not psychologists nor the court system is responsible to teach your child to be polite and interact well with others. This is your job as the parent.
As a parent you'll need to understand these basics: 1. What a child wants mos is positive attention from people who are significant to them. When they can't get positive attention they'll do whatever is necessary to get attention even if it is negative.
2. Boundaries are a good thing for a child. The simple act of setting and enforcing certain boundaries shows your child that you care and puts the structure into their life that makes them feel secure.
3. Children require consistent discipline. If you are wishie-washie (a technical term!) about setting and enforcing limits, for example you end up teaching your child that everything is negotiable and nothing really matters.
4.Part of the idea of consistency is the feeling of certainty that a child has that their will always be consequences for behavior that is not acceptable.
5.Finally, more change has come about faster in a child's behavior by parents who notice good behavior and give their child praise, affection and rewards. Notice the good things your child does; praise your child and be generous with your affection. Your child won't take advantage of your affection if you remember to be consistent about setting boundaries.
6.Spend quality time with your children. Children need down time and a time when they can just be themselves without being judged. Make time to play with your children at their level where you are laughing as much as your children. If you aren't laughing with your children every day you need to loosen up because you'll be a better parent for it.
If you'll just learn and practice these basic parenting skills you'll soon see major improvements in your child's behavior and attitude!
by: David Davies..
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