subject: We Broke Up - The Unapparent, Underlying Cause [print this page] Relationships end for all types of reasonsRelationships end for all types of reasons. One partner wasn't spending enough time with the other, or one cheated on the other. Regardless of the reasons established outwardly, there is often an underlying cause that has ultimately robbed you and your partner of happiness with one another in the relationship. That underlying cause is the basis of a common saying that you have undoubtedly heard on numerous occasions; "Relationships take a lot of work."
Contrary to what many dating sites advertise these days about the importance of compatibility and their ability to create lasting relationships by finding it between two individuals, compatibility alone will not keep the love alive forever. Both partners must continually "feed" the relationship in order to sustain the love felt between them in the long run. Without that continuous feeding, one or both of you will be left feeling that something is missing from the relationship and longing for something more.
If you have been broken up with, and you didn't even see it coming, then you may feel as though you have done nothing to deserve the sudden break-up. Perhaps, it is the doing nothing that was the very source of the problem. Consider for a minute some of the things that you may have done in the relationship's beginning that, once comfortable, you may have done less and less, or not even at all in the the latter days of the relationship. It could even be the littlest of things like no longer sharing the details of your day or spending less time with your significant other.
Those little things are what ultimately added up to the love felt by your significant other. Without them, your partner may have felt less appreciated or not cared for. However, this is not to say that you were the only one at fault. A relationship takes the work of both individuals involved. Your partner may have done no more than you to keep the love alive. Likewise, you may have done more than your part, but you partner failed to hold up his/her end of the bargain.
Unfortunately, everyone seems to have certain criteria for what makes them feel loved by another and how much. For some, it might be physical affection, while others might grade how much they are loved on whether or not their partner spends enough time with them or remembers important holidays and birthdays. Regardless of what you or your partner's specific criteria for feeling loved and appreciated were, both of you probably once met or exceeded one another's expectations in the past, but failed to do so in the months or years leading up to the end of the relationship.
We Broke Up - The Unapparent, Underlying Cause
By: Anthony S Carter
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