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Counselling - What Women Need to Have a Happy Marriage

Our world has changed so much over the last 40 years that women have far less time to meet with their female friends than what they need. For the health of their marriage relationships, women need to spend more time nurturing their friendships with other women. For many women this seems obvious but it keeps falling lower down on their "to do" list. They feel that they're being pulled in a bunch of different directions.Husbands can only do so much. Women and the marriage relationships they hold dear have been negatively impacted by the decline in time spent with close female companions. The impact this has on a woman's marriage is not widely understood. Some think men should fill the gap. This sounds nice in theory. This theory doesn't play out that well in real life though.Some of the emotional needs a woman has can be successfully filled by her husband. A husband can provide a listening ear and kind word. The primary role of men is still to provide and protect. Most men don't have the capacity to help support their wife in the manner a close female friend would. They also have a tendency to interpret their wife's expressions of frustration as a personal attack.Feelings often need to be talked about by women for them to gain clarity and greater objectivity. Men generally find this odd. The male model of figuring things out is a more solitary process. Close female friends are able to provide clarity to one and other through the process of sharing. Sharing creates closeness and alleviates the fear of being alone. Women who don't feel alone are more capable spouses and mothers.Setting aside more time to build relationships with female friends is vital for women who want a healthy marriage. It's not in a woman's best interest to expect her husband to fill this important role in her life. The male need for talking is far different than yours. Men find a large amount of relief from excessive stress by engaging in physical activities.Healthy spouses respect the gender differences of their mate. If you've allowed your female friendships to lapse, make some changes. This can have a big impact on the overall state of your marriage relationship. Change some of your priorities. Perhaps your home won't be as tidy as you'd like? Some activities might need to be dropped.Initiate contact with your girlfriends. Rare is the married woman who doesn't have too many tasks and not enough time. They'll be happy you called. Very few women aren't longing for more sharing and connecting time with a trusted friend. Married women with kids are being pulled in all directions at once.Nothing sophisticated is required for you to reap the benefits. A large time commitment isn't generally required. The key is to be consistent. The best thing is to have regular times to meet up and share. Avoid long periods without connecting with a trusted friend. The benefits of this change will impact many important areas of your life.




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