subject: Learning All About Child Aggression and What You Can Do About it [print this page] Learning All About Child Aggression and What You Can Do About it
When learning about child aggression it can feel a lot like staring down a dragon, looking it right in the face. You hope against all hope that none of what you read will apply to you and your child but deep down you know it will. But wait!
This can be a good thing!
At the very least it is an absolute answer to your problem about your child. Okay, I understand how you feel. "So my child behaves aggressively. Now what? Tell me something I did not already know!"
How about almost all children are aggressive and they will eventually outgrow it? How does that sound for starters? It is a natural part of child development. Many preschoolers and toddlers will grab things out of another child's hand's and run away with their coveted toy when they think no one is looking.
Almost all children will hit, punch, kick, bite, scream, push and shove their way to the top at some point or another in their little lives. It is very common and your child is not the only angel turned demon to look out for.
Feel better? Alright now for learning a little more about child aggression and what you can do about it.
Why is your child acting out in such a way? What causes all these children to become so aggressive? Their are many reasons, too many to name here in this little article but we can hit the high notes and the major ones to give you a clear idea of where child aggression comes from.
1. Frustrations 2. Tiredness 3. Hunger 4. confusion 5. Fear
Now for some helpful tips to take action against this aggression and ways to actually do something about it.
Number one: Respond immediately. As soon as is possible when you see your child konk another kid in the head with a toy take action. Spring to the aid of the one who was accosted and if possible have your little one apologize. Remove the child and without scolding or getting emotionally razzled yourself, let them know that what they have done is unacceptable.
Number two: Have them learn what it is to apologize and take responsibility for what they have done. The more they are faced with what they have done the less they will want to do it. Especially when it involves them making amends and expressing their mistakes. When a child begins to see that they will not get away with acting out and that it is an unacceptable way to behave they will begin to develop a 'think first' attitude.
Number three: Practice consistent consequences and always immediately explain the reasons why they cannot act the way they are acting. When child aggression is present the worst thing you can do is to shout or yell at them. This is counter-productive and will not help. Just talk to them about what they did and have them act in a way to do whatever they can to reverse whatever wrong they did. In the beginning it will only be going through the motions but eventually they will learn and become sincere about it too.
Number four: This one is my favorite and is the final little tip for this article for a reason. It is Reinforcing Positive or Good Behavior. It must be done in order to help them fully learn the reasons behind their consequences. There are so many ways in which we will forget to give praise and it sometimes seems to children that all we notice is the bad things they do.
So try your very best to never miss an opportunity to say, "Hey, I am proud of how well you behaved today so I am treating us to an Ice-cream. It is important to act on this as much as it is important to act on the consequences. Words themselves will only take you so far and you will need actions to back them up.
Child aggression is a common problem that really is not all that much of a problem if you are armed with the right information. There are a score of programs, systems, methods or what have you out there today. None are nearly as effective as Dr.Ryan & Ashley's Happy Child Guide to Discipline.
welcome to Insurances.net (https://www.insurances.net)
