subject: Getting Your Partner To Like Boating [print this page] Mary and I repeatedly come across couples where one is an experienced cruiser and the other is an amateur. How to balance the scale and get the amateur at ease? Will living and cruising aboard ever work when one of the parties is inexperienced or a tad uncertain how or if to proceed?
The first step is to present boating slowly. Charter a trawler together so you understand whether it is something that might work before you make the plunge and buy a new or used trawler or motor yacht together. Go out on weekend cruises with friends who own boats. Is your partner relaxed? The old saying is that you either love it or hate it.
Once you have made the decision to proceed with buying a yacht, be sure your partner is involved in the purchase course of action. Both of you must be partial to everything about the motor yacht or trawler you get. Look at boats via the web and compose a catalog of things you like. Compare notes to ensure you and your partner like similar features basically. If not, you will be selling it again in a few months. We have observed this often. The engines and all systems will talk to the man; the interior arrangement and design will appeal to the woman. The man can love the engines and all the expensive electronic equipment but if the bath or galley is not perfect for the lady, you will not be choosing that specific boat. If mama ain't happy, no one's happy.
Obtain a yacht broker that will perform as your buyer's broker. An experienced broker will lead you through the purchasing course of action and aid you in learning about your vessel following the purchase.
Now you've obtained your dream boat and have equipped her with everything you require to cruise full time. It's time to take her away from the dock. But before starting the engines, put together a strategy. Plan how you will maneuver from the wharf and how you will drop the anchor. How will you get back to the pier? Discuss this strategy with each other so everyone is aware of his or her function. This is where communication plays a significant role. Each participant must be familiar with their function in this procedure. Once you get away from the harbor, attempt operating in the wide open water. Practice is the key to gaining self-confidencepractice your docking methods also. When your novice partner feels self-confident, you've won the game. After a few maneuvers, evaluate what was done accurately and what needs extra practice. This is the key to having fun. And don't be scared of making errors. We have all been there.
One mistake NOT to make is with regard to communication. Yelling will get you nowhere. It will stress your partner to the point where he or she will be prone to make errors or it will make them so irate they will throw up their hands and give up. Yelling can be a reflection of your own stress/anxiety which could be interpreted by your mate that you don't know what you are doing, thus stressing them out. Try to talk calmly and in a normal tone. If you do end up yelling at your mate, make sure you make an apology later; otherwise you might be sleeping on the bridge that night.
Relentless training can lead to problems also. If you are trying to coach your partner how to run the boat, peering over his/her shoulder and coaching each minute can lead to concern. The partner will start focusing on your criticism rather than how they are operating the vessel. As in all walks of life, communication is the answer. Oh, and when your novice partner does something right, give them an ata-boy; works all the time.
If you are successful in getting your mate to experience a fun time on the water, you can count on many new trips trying to duplicate that recollection, I guarantee it.
by: Marinetrader
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