subject: Dating Tips For Women: Dating Men With Children [print this page] What is it about children that makes us say Oh, shes so cute!, but then when we realize that our Mr. Right has kids, we usually say Oh, Darn!? Unconditional love is something that we all desire. More importantly, one of the best examples of unconditional love is one that a parent has for their child. Yet, most women stay clear of dating men with children; especially if he has never been married. Dating a man with children should not be a problem for you if you are sure that this relationship is what you want.
Before dating a man with a child, you should know that they are very concerned and choosy about their dating options. They usually avoid getting into serious relationships and do not easily accept new partners. They use their time wisely, and if he is a good father; he will want to spend lots of time with his children. Thus, the reason for avoiding serious relationships. Kids will often limit the time
you can spend together and put your love life on a curfew. If things get more serious and long tern, they will play a major role in your relationship.
The best thing that you can do for a man with children is to be realistic without being too nosey. Dont pretend that him having children will have no effect on your potential relationship. If you do not accept him and his kids, you will most likely not be compatible. Before he truly feels that you are worth dating, he has to be sure that you will accept his children and the role that he plays in their life. Lets just face it, there will be times when a date may be canceled, due to his choice to spend the evening with his children instead. While he knows that this may bother you, he will still want to feel as though you not only respect his decision, but respect it as well. The best thing you can do in this situation is to be honest. Assure that you were excited about the evening, and if you choose to be disappointed; be sure to be reasonable. Regardless of whats going on, never give him the choice between you and his kids. He will end things immediately.
After dating for a while, he may want you to meet his children. Until then, dont pressure him about meeting his children. As a good parent, he is more likely waiting until he feels your relationship is becoming serious before he introduces you. To speed things along you may start by showing him that you could be his friend and your relationship will not hurt him. When he finally suggests that you meet, be sure to meet in a neutral environment. Instead of visiting the home, try going to a child friendly venue that will encourage interaction. Remember that this is not the time to be cuddled up with their father. On the contrary, your focus needs to be on getting to know the children. This will be a good way to finding out what you have in common. Be prepared for many questions, and maybe even many awkward moments.
With some luck and some sacrifices from your side and not only, you may have the family that you ever dreamed with the man you love. Remember, that a man with children is looking for a companion who is honest and accepting of his children. If you feel that this could cause conflict for you, its best to be honest. He will appreciate your honesty, and if he likes you he will try to make things more comfortable for you and be able to keep his kids happy as well.
