subject: How A parenting Ebook Helped Me After My Divorce [print this page] How A parenting Ebook Helped Me After My Divorce
Have you ever bought a parenting eBook before? I can guarantee you that you have never seen one like this before.
If you are reading this then you have a desire to cure a problem you are having with your child. Well, I am not a professional therapist, doctor, psychologist or anyone else with a 6 year college degree. I am just a regular guy from Pennsylvania, with a 14 year old daughter. I would like to share this story with you.
My wife and I got divorced a few years ago and I needed some help getting through to my daughter.I don't know if you have ever been divorced, but it can have devastating effects on your children. Anyways, I needed help. My daughter wouldn't talk to me anymore. When she was at my house all she did was act up and disobey. The problems were worse than this but I am not going to go into any more detail. Needless to say, this was not the daughter I raised for the last 12 years. I soon found out that the same problems I was having with her, my ex-wife was too. Even though we weren't together anymore, we both love our daughter very much and were at our whits end as to what to do. We wanted to help her before the effects became everlasting.
In case you don't already know this, professional therapy can be very expensive. I was left with no choice but to try to figure out what to do without professional help. I did what you are doing right now, searching the net for any and all advice I could get. I bought a couple of books and didn't have any luck getting through to my little girl. I was becoming very frustrated.
Then, while speaking to one of the ladies at my job about my frustrations regarding my daughter, she mentioned this book and how it helped her with her kids. I knew that if it had helped her with her kids, there was no way in this world that this book couldn't help me. ( her kids were pure terrors compared to my daughter )
With this book I learned how to communicate better with my daughter. I learned how to deal with her emotions and learned ways to show her that I respect her. I learned that by getting her more involved by asking her open ended questions, allowed for better communication. This book taught me how to deal with her feelings. She, as so many children do, felt like it was her fault that her mother and I separated. By being able to have a better line of communication with her, I was eventually able to make her understand that it wasn't her fault at all and reassure her that both of us loved her very much.
She also went through a stage where it was either my fault or her mothers fault that we separated. This was a very touchy subject for me. There were a couple of reasons for my divorce. I worked too much, which in turn left my wife lacking in attention. She in turn sought attention from another man. I couldn't tell my daughter that it was all my wife's fault, because it wasn't. Even though she was the one who broke the vows of matrimony, I wasn't there for her the way she needed me to be. (this I learned in therapy afterwords) Anyways, with the help of this book I was able to explain to her pretty easily that sometimes people just grow apart and even though they still may care about each other, they just can't continue the relationship. The conversation wasn't that short, but if I hadn't read this book, I would have just blamed my wife and been done with it. You can't do that with children. There is a whole section in this book dedicated to divorce, and how to help your children deal with it. And it was also nice to have the email support system they offer as well.
Anyways, it has been 8 months since I bought this book and my little girl is back to "normal" for a 14 year old. She still thinks she's going on 30. If you know what I mean. The point being, I now have a better relationship with my daughter than I had before my divorce. We talk about everything (except boys), and there is no more acting out. Both her mother and I have a better relationship with her.
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