subject: Parenting Talk: Let's Teach Our Kids Today! [print this page] Whether we like or not, our babies, our children grow up. These were the very ones that could not do a thing without your help now want to be as independent as they possibly can. The teenage years may seem to be difficult as they are trying to find their own identity, be their own person, and at times want to do things that may seem strange to you but rational to them. If we did our jobs in raising them well and inspiring them with values and life lessons, then it shouldn't be a problem when they start wanting to be on their own. Here are some things we can help them in their quest:
- Give them the freedom but remind them of the responsibility it entails. Our teenage kids want to do things on their own and often are secretive of their actions. Give them the leeway they ask but remind them of the things they have to do in turn. If this means keeping up a certain grade standard then make sure that they maintain that. If this has to do with being diligent with their housework and their chores, then point this out to them. - Bond with them in certain things. Help them get their driver's permit and let them get lessons but re-enforce it with your own time to teach them how to drive. Perhaps you can ask them to drive for you when doing errands. I am sure they will snatch every chance they can to use the car. And if they already have their driver's license, perhaps offer them one of the old cars you have as theirs provided they do certain things. Ask them to find the cheapest car insurance for a young driver and ask them to contribute to that insurance policy. Their demographic set pays the most for car insurance and by asking them to find the cheapest car insurance for a young driver; you teach them to be resourceful. What you can also do is to then talk to that insurance company and offer to upgrade the policy they have chosen.
- Talk to them as if they are adults already. Talk to them with respect and in turn, they will respect you as such. You don't necessarily have to be their friend. In fact, your job is not to be their friend but to be their parent. They should be able to talk to you if they have problems and you should be able to talk to them on how to deal with them. Trusting that you brought them up well, they in turn will try not to let you down. Mistakes will happen but depending on the gravity of the error, some tolerance can be accommodated. After all, they are your kids and you have seen them grow up from babies to young adults.
by: Steven Magill
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