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How A Relationship Breakup Affects Your Pet
After I had learnt to cope with the shock of my 11 year relationship breaking up
, I started to go through a different trauma, the loss of my much loved, fluffy tiger (actually a cat, but she thought otherwise). Not only did I miss her terribly but I was also worried about how she would feel without me around. Would she eat properly? Would she get anxious looking for me? Would she pick fights with the other cat because of confusion? Unfortunately, for many reasons, I had no choice but to leave her with my ex and the other cat. We were extremely close, she was a real fussy character and would only ever come to me for cuddles. She was completely my baby cat.Sadly if you have a strong bond with an animal then there's a very big chance that they will go through their own heartbreak at the divorce and at losing you. Their routine and home life will be forever changed and that will cause them anxiety and stress. Sadly during the difficult time of separation our pets are often the last thing on our minds. Of course this is understandable as your head will be a mess and your whole life as you knew it has probably just disappeared. Most animals will pick up on the hostility and anger and may be very scared and confused. Then you have the problem of deciding which one of you will take care of the pet.
Below are some helpful tips when thinking about your pet during a break up.
If you have children take into consideration that they too will have formed strong attachments to your pets. It is highly recommended that the pet isn't separated from a child if at all possible. Stability for them both at this time is so important. They can be a great source of comfort to children when their parents are splitting up. Give your child some pet responsibilities, it will give them something to focus on. Encourage them to develop a closer bond to your animal, it will undoubtedly be a comfort and help to both of them. Remember you are the adult and can handle this better, help your child and pet at this time, they'll always be your family.
Ensure that when you are first discussing the terms of your separation that you include any pets. If you leave this till the end it could become difficult. Make it clear who will care for the pet and any visitation rights. Don't let it get confusing, stick to the decision.
Think about your living arrangements when deciding with whom the pet will live. Make sure your pet goes to the owner that can offer the best care and best home, even if this means it isn't you. Outside space and a comfortable home will be vital points to think about. Put your needs and wants second, it's hard to do, but it is necessary.
If you do end up with the pet then take comfort from them rather than shutting them out of your problems. They will feel your energy anyway and their natural instinct will be to nurture you. If you have a cat, buy a new cat stand and some toys to play with them. You can buy cat sprays that will calm them down like Feliway Feline Facial Pheromone Diffuser. Give them plenty of attention so your bond is reinforced. If you have a dog take it for long walks this will give you a chance to clear your head and the dog will enjoy having time just with you.
If you are keeping the family pet then remember that they will need a lot of love and comfort when your ex leaves. Regardless of how your relationship ended or what your opinion is of your previous partner/spouse, they were a part of your pet's life.
Seek the advice of your vet immediately if your pet shows any signs of depression such as not eating or behavioural problems.
Allow yourself to feel sad if you lose your pet in the process of divorce/separation. The love between a pet and their owner is very strong and it will be natural for both of you to be upset at this loss.
Whatever you do don't argue with your ex in front of your pet. This could leave them feeling anxious and insecure.
Don't take your anger out on your pet. Just remember how much they love you and how confused they are. This will be a new beginning for them as well.
Never use your pet as a bargaining tool in your divorce. If you want to do that, argue with each other over the furniture, never over children or animals. Always keep in mind what is in your pet's best interest.
Only approach the court for custody if it is a last resort. Try talking to your spouse or attempt mediation first.
For further advice speak to your vet who should be able to help with how to care for your pet during a break up, especially if they become distressed.
For legal advice concerning custody or contact with your pet you should consult a solicitor.
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